DS attended indoor mask “playdate”. Need to reciprocate but don’t care if friend wears mask. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

When we have kids over, I don’t wear a mask and my children don’t either, but you can’t control what other kids do. My daughter has a friend who faithfully wears her masks, and that’s ok! We don’t ever name her feel weird about it. My kids have other friends who ask if we want them to wear a mask, and I say no, it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS went his friend’s house and was told to bring and wear a mask. I will need to reciprocate at some point and I don’t care if the kid wears a mask. I am actually planning to stay maskless (have no idea if anyone in their house besides my son wore a mask). How do I frame this mask wearing preference? I will need to convey this to my kid who will then convey this to his friend and the friend will or won’t convey this to his dad. Also, do I make my son wear a mask too if the other kid chooses to wear his? I guess so!
Fwiw I am vaccinated and the only adult in the house.

This seems pretty basic. You feel you should reciprocate the favor of hosting. So call or email or text the parent and ask what their mask preference is and then follow it while their child is at your house. Since they asked for your son to mask at their house, a safe bet is that they would want all of you to mask while their son is at your house.

I have found the best policy has been open communication. When I have had kids over I let the parents know exactly what my rules are and then the parents can decide if they are comfortable or if they would prefer modifications. I have had more communication with teenagers parents through Covid than ever before but it has prevented conflict.