DS attended indoor mask “playdate”. Need to reciprocate but don’t care if friend wears mask. WWYD?

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I usually go with the most conservative person's preference. Ask the parents what they prefer and then abide by that for the kids. I wouldn't wear a mask in my house if the kids were playing in the bedroom but I would be fine with the kids wearing one. I also would have a mask handy for when I had to deal with the kids.

I recently went with three friends to a state park for a low key hiking outing. We all work from home and we're all long vaccinated. One of my friends wanted us to wear masks in the car. So, we all wore masks in the car. No complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This feels a little disingenuous to me. You know the other family’s preference. They requested that your child wear a mask. They were clear about that in their initial invite. If you really feel strongly about no masks or this play date was months ago, so you feel they could have evolved their position, have a conversation with them.

+1 I would either plan for your family to wear masks, or ask "are you comfortable if Larlo and I are not wearing masks in our house?"

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

+1. We're all vaccinated. kids are going to school with each other anyway. we're getting back to normal whether you like it or not. Getting back to the question at hand--I usually just ask their preference. My son went to a friend's house and I asked--do you prefer he wear a mask in your house? and the parents were cool with no mask wearing, so now I know. If they had wanted my son to wear a mask at their house, then I'm going to assume they want would want their son to wear his at ours, but I would let them know in advance he does not have to, but really personal preference prevails here. I would do whatever makes them most comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

This.

It’s May, for Christ’s sakes.

Play outside.

And if you’re going to be indoors with unvaccinated people outside your household, everyone should be wearing masks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

+1.

We're actually not doing indoor playdates although we (parents) are vaccinated. AND, our kids have been in person all school year. That's completely our choice and we wouldn't make it for anyone else. Our kids have been in sports all year and some people have decided not to do that. Respect other people's decisions.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally ask the parents what they're comfortable with and just do that. Things are changing real fast right now so i think within a couple weeks things will have generally shaken out.

The dad is known for his hands off attitude (in a good way) so the boys planned it all - I was only consulted on the time. Which I loved tbh.
I guess I will ask my kid if anyone else wore masks there and act accordingly.

Quite the interesting approach during a continuing pandemic. Are they both vaccinated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

NP. Disagree.

This is how the virus continues to spread, because of people like you, with your ME ME ME attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: basically how do I tell the kid he is welcome to not wear a mask unless he or his parents prefer to wear it.

You say exactly that. We have a similar situation and it’s nbd.

[Anonymous]

Knowing the other family requested masks, I would say something like..."We have not been doing masked playdates but if you would like us to mask while Billy is with us, we would be happy to"

If you do not care to mask then I would say that specifically We are not requiring masks at our house now. I am vaccinated. If you are not comfortable with that, the boys can be outside.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: basically how do I tell the kid he is welcome to not wear a mask unless he or his parents prefer to wear it.

You say exactly that. We have a similar situation and it’s nbd.

His parents may want you in one.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

+1. Keep your OPINION to yourself. You're free to do what you was as is everyone else, even if it doesn't fit with your "rules"

[Anonymous]

Given this is on the teen/tween board I assume kid is old enough to manage his own invites etc. That is what mine do (after asking permission from me). I don’t talk to other kids’ parents about arrangements unless there is a specific reason.

Masks are same as any other house rule at this age IMO. They required it at their house- fine. You don’t require at yours- fine. The kid can wear one if he likes. If he is uncomfortable, the kid can tell DS and they can go outdoors. You aren’t obligated to wear a mask in your own house if you don’t want to, and surely you aren’t hanging out with the kids anyway

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I generally ask the parents what they're comfortable with and just do that. Things are changing real fast right now so i think within a couple weeks things will have generally shaken out.

The dad is known for his hands off attitude (in a good way) so the boys planned it all - I was only consulted on the time. Which I loved tbh.
I guess I will ask my kid if anyone else wore masks there and act accordingly.

You cannot expect kids to negotiate this pandemic stuff. People have different levels of comfort, obviously. It's not up to your kid's friend, it's up to their parent.

I would communicate with the parent:
Hi, (your kid) has invited (their kid) for a playdate on x date. It is fine with me if the kids do not wear masks, unless you prefer that they do wear masks. I am fully vaccinated, so I don't plan to wear a mask unless you are uncomfortable with that. Please let me know whether (their kid) can attend and your mask preferences. Looking forward to it!

This
You must talk to the parent about it, at least by text. This is different than asking if they want a piece of pizza or not...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be doing indoor playdates. How is this even a question. Don't you care about your child's health?

NOPE! You don’t get to control what other people do. We WILL get back to normal, even if you don’t like it.

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