Does long, thick hair look unprofessional on a 40 yo woman?

[Anonymous]

If it's like the picture, then I agree, cut 4-5" off, otherwise you look like you're trying to be a real housewife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not clear on the point of the thread, OP. Are you looking for honest answers, or is having people respond that they find it distracting, unattractive, or otherwise unprofessional not acceptable to you?

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Op here.

I haven’t pushed back on the criticism or suggestions. The comments have confirmed my suspicion: I should cut my hair shorter.

I’m hoping for pics of celebrities, etc. so I can show my stylist what I’m aiming for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's like the picture, then I agree, cut 4-5" off, otherwise you look like you're trying to be a real housewife.

Lol. Gotcha.

FTR, my hair isn’t quite that long. Probably 2 inches shorter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you style it?

Kinda like the pic someone posted of the blond with the super long hair. Sometimes I curl it like that, sometimes I just curl the ends (under or flipped out), and sometimes I straighten it.

I don’t usually pull it up or back.

I’ve worn it shorter in the past. I don’t see a huge difference: still long layers. Unfortunately, I can’t wear bangs or even the Jacklyn Smith long layered fringe. The texture of my ends and thick hair doesn’t work well with bangs.

I’m trying to think of celebs with thick hair. Drawing a bit of a blank.

[Anonymous]

I think it varies with the style as well as with the profession. What also matters is what skills and talents you want people to notice and pay attention to. “Great leadership/ surgical skills/ negotiating ability....” or “great hair”? Kate, the example you used, wants to attract —and use — a certain kind of attention, and project a certain image, over and above her personal style. Ask yourself if this is a part of your profession’ s culture. Aside from safety issues, I would be very turned off by hair flips in many professions, so, how you handle your hair is something you might give some thought to as well.

I, personally, like the pulled-back-at-the-top look. The rest can be left loose, or twisted up into a bun.

[Anonymous]

How tall are you OP and what is your dress style in general? Taller women can get away with longer hair, but if you are short and half of your body is covered in hair - that's not a good look.
Your hair should frame your face, not just sit on your chest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How tall are you OP and what is your dress style in general? Taller women can get away with longer hair, but if you are short and half of your body is covered in hair - that's not a good look.
Your hair should frame your face, not just sit on your chest.

5’9”

And, I have a longish, roundish face.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

My hair looks a bit like Julianne Moore’s hair, but a tad thicker and more reddish blond (definitely not a single shade of red).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How tall are you OP and what is your dress style in general? Taller women can get away with longer hair, but if you are short and half of your body is covered in hair - that's not a good look.
Your hair should frame your face, not just sit on your chest.

5’9”

And, I have a longish, roundish face.

Since you compared your hair to Kate Middleton, I’d find a picture of Kate with a shorter cut. Her length has been as short as around the top of shoulders and personally I think that looks best on her too- I’d go with that

[Anonymous]

OP be honest is your hair really thick?

[Anonymous]

If you can't or don't want to put it up for work, then a shorter style is more likely to read as professional.

[Anonymous]

careful about getting a short cut with thick hair, OP. I don't know about yours, but mine is pretty wavy, so when it goes short there is WAY TOO MUCH VOLUME because it's not being weighed down by length.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:careful about getting a short cut with thick hair, OP. I don't know about yours, but mine is pretty wavy, so when it goes short there is WAY TOO MUCH VOLUME because it's not being weighed down by length.

Great point. I can’t go shoulder length for that reason. I need a good 2 inches below the shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Or get it thinned. Most competent hair stylists can do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:careful about getting a short cut with thick hair, OP. I don't know about yours, but mine is pretty wavy, so when it goes short there is WAY TOO MUCH VOLUME because it's not being weighed down by length.

Great point. I can’t go shoulder length for that reason. I need a good 2 inches below the shoulder.

I think armpit length is the most flattering length at any age if hair is thick and heathy