How often do you allow your teen to get their nails done? Do you allow Gel/tips? Highlight hair?

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13. Never had a professional mani/pedi. I give her mani/pedi for special occasions. No hair coloring allowed.

I started getting nails and hair done when I could pay for them beginning junior year.

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Anonymous wrote:My teen gets high lights as needed. Mani/pedi once a week with me. We also go together for bikini waxes.

I don’t see the big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a 12 year old who has her hair dyed regularly, and her eyebrows have been done.

I think mom does her hair, but they go into the salon for the eyebrows.

We did allow 13 year old ds to dye his hair.

I would take my 13 yr old to get a professional eyebrow shaping and laser hair removal (if needed to upper lip or another conspicuous area). I would not want my 13 yo messing around with DIY for those. Eyebrows don’t grow back- ask me how I know. Never give a 13 yo tweezers!

This was microblading, or whatever it is that can cause scabbing.

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Anonymous wrote:No way would I take a 13 y/o to get gel tips. That is nuts. Nail care is very easy and basic and teens have a lot of free time to be able to do this. There is no reason they can't learn to trim, file, buff, and paint their own nails. Plus nail salons are gross and notorious for fungal infections. If you think yours is clean, it likely isn't.

I also would pay for highlights. A nice haircut, yes. No to professional hair color, especially highlights. It is terrible for your hair, expensive, and requires a lot of upkeep. You don't want to create a high maintenance teen. She will have a lot of trouble saving money and budgeting if she gets used to this level of pampering now.

If she wants to experiment with hair color, I'd be open to letting her use demi/semi-permanent, ammonia-free boxed drug store stuff.

I don't want my teen to grow up thinking this nail salon nonsense is a required grooming activity for women. It is consuming of money and more importantly, time, for something that lasts a few days and then get destroyed. To me it as stupid as panty hose and we managed to finally dispense with those.

This is my view too.

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Anonymous wrote:No way would I take a 13 y/o to get gel tips. That is nuts. Nail care is very easy and basic and teens have a lot of free time to be able to do this. There is no reason they can't learn to trim, file, buff, and paint their own nails. Plus nail salons are gross and notorious for fungal infections. If you think yours is clean, it likely isn't.

I also would pay for highlights. A nice haircut, yes. No to professional hair color, especially highlights. It is terrible for your hair, expensive, and requires a lot of upkeep. You don't want to create a high maintenance teen. She will have a lot of trouble saving money and budgeting if she gets used to this level of pampering now.

If she wants to experiment with hair color, I'd be open to letting her use demi/semi-permanent, ammonia-free boxed drug store stuff.

I don't want my teen to grow up thinking this nail salon nonsense is a required grooming activity for women. It is consuming of money and more importantly, time, for something that lasts a few days and then get destroyed. To me it as stupid as panty hose and we managed to finally dispense with those.

This is my view too.

Not to mention, filthy. You can get serious fungal and other infections from mani/pedis. The more frequently you get them, the more likely you are to acquire an infection. It's easy enough to learn to do at home.

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Anonymous wrote:No way would I take a 13 y/o to get gel tips. That is nuts. Nail care is very easy and basic and teens have a lot of free time to be able to do this. There is no reason they can't learn to trim, file, buff, and paint their own nails. Plus nail salons are gross and notorious for fungal infections. If you think yours is clean, it likely isn't.

I also would pay for highlights. A nice haircut, yes. No to professional hair color, especially highlights. It is terrible for your hair, expensive, and requires a lot of upkeep. You don't want to create a high maintenance teen. She will have a lot of trouble saving money and budgeting if she gets used to this level of pampering now.

If she wants to experiment with hair color, I'd be open to letting her use demi/semi-permanent, ammonia-free boxed drug store stuff.

I don't want my teen to grow up thinking this nail salon nonsense is a required grooming activity for women. It is consuming of money and more importantly, time, for something that lasts a few days and then get destroyed. To me it as stupid as panty hose and we managed to finally dispense with those.

Totally agree. And FWIW I'm all for having fun with hair/makeup etc etc. My dd had her hair professionally dyed for a part in a play and had a great time having another color for awhile, we certainly both wear makeup and maintain our nails to be healthy etc. But giving a 13yo the impression that this required "maintenance" is a bad IMO, and if girls are getting mad and pouty that they don't get these things as a matter of course I would be wanting to nip that in the bud not promote it.

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None of these things on a regular basis, specifically because nail salons have too much carcinogenic fumes floating around, and because too much hair dye damages hair and potentially also has long-term toxicity. If either of these were perfectly safe, I wouldn't mind at all.

Fertility has been decreasing for years, PP.
Perhaps it has to do with all the chemicals we’re surrounded by. It’s best for growing bodies, who are more susceptible to toxins, to avoid such non-essential things like nail salons and permanent hair dye.

Don't worry, there are plenty of humans. We are not going extinct anytime soon!

Do you want YOUR daughter struggling with infertility, or diagnosed with hormone-based disorders, or at increased risk of cancer?

Credible link proving causal connection...?

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Too expensive and not worth it, time to earn their own money I'd they want to do this on a regular basis.

I've taught mine how to do a mani pedi, and am ok with a professional one as a special birthday treat or something. Not starting the hair highlighting, etc... as it is too expensive here. If she wants to do some hair coloring at home, that's fine.

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I didn't let my 13 yo get gel/acrylic nails, just the occasional mani/pedi. It's a fun activity. I would pay for color in her hair occasionally, something fun that had an easy transition plan. DD is now 16, has a job, has to save at least 50% of every paycheck but is free to spend the other 50% on whatever she wants. She pays for her mani/pedis, I'll pay for hair cuts but she pays for the color. She's gone wild on the color and is currently rocking purple and green. I couldn't care less what color it is, how bad it is for her hair or what kind of transition plan she has. It's just hair and she's paying for it.

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We get regular haircuts, whatever cut they want and I allowed the 12 year old to get blonde highlight streaks in front this year. Nails maybe once a year when we get back from the beach, for fun (not this year!) But I am a down to earth sort of sporty hippy intellectual type. But before covid I would see mommy-daughters out together in MoCo and you can tell moms are paying for full manis and blowouts on the regular and mom has so much botox it's crazy.

[Anonymous]

I'd recommend against powder dip, they really do last a long time but when it's time to come off they have to use a dremel tool, imagine that grinding through the nail layer and accidentally hitting your kid's nail bed ow.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your child? Do they go on a regular basis? Manicure and/or salons? Gel on a regular manicure?

My thirteen year old asked for gel nails over spring break. Since we didn’t go anywhere I allowed her to get it but I told her a) I don’t like gel / Uv light for a young girl never mind getting regular nail polish manicures., b) She is free to do her own nails at home. Up until now I only allowed her a manicure for her birthday, Christmas time, a special treat when her friend from California visits her. In the past, it has never been a big issue. C) if she wants to continue to get her nails done she has to come up with the money herself. She’s upset because I won’t allow her to go to a salon on a regular basis and that I won’t pay for any of it with exception to Xmas, birthday, and when her California friend visits.

I pay for haircut at a very ice salon but no hair coloring or highlights. Am I being mean? She’ll be 14 this summer. What do you do in your family? Do you slow gel? Do you pay for it? Am so being over the top by saying no highlights until she’s sixteen and has her own money to do it?

Never.

Waste of time and money.

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All of us are here for the Nope, Her Money, and btw it's bad to set up teen girls for all the stupid maintenance we think we need.

BUT, where are the parents of all the girls I see at the mall with expensive looking nails and highlights? I know you're out there... chime in and tell us why you pay for/condone it?

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Anonymous wrote:All of us are here for the Nope, Her Money, and btw it's bad to set up teen girls for all the stupid maintenance we think we need.

BUT, where are the parents of all the girls I see at the mall with expensive looking nails and highlights? I know you're out there... chime in and tell us why you pay for/condone it?

I'm middle of the road on this. But I will say that is their choice . . . what's it to you? Why do you have to make this some sort of moral judgment? Worry about yourself. Seems there is plenty to work on there.

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Anonymous wrote:All of us are here for the Nope, Her Money, and btw it's bad to set up teen girls for all the stupid maintenance we think we need.

BUT, where are the parents of all the girls I see at the mall with expensive looking nails and highlights? I know you're out there... chime in and tell us why you pay for/condone it?

I'm middle of the road on this. But I will say that is their choice . . . what's it to you? Why do you have to make this some sort of moral judgment? Worry about yourself. Seems there is plenty to work on there.

16:10 here. I paid for some fun color the first time because she'd worked hard to overcome something and color was what she'd asked for. After that, I paid for it because it was fun and I could. I recognize you made a different choice but why do you care? It's not as if the message I'm sending her is that she 'needs' this. She's having fun with it. It's more expensive but no different than the sparkly pink shirts she used to love from Justice.