Being told you look 'sick' at your ideal weight?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, honest question: are you *asking* if it could be them, as in you think it might be that you actually looked sick, but maybe not -- or are you telling people you were treated badly, and you think it was out of jealousy for having lost weight while they gained?

I mean, is talking about anything other than "fat women are jealous of thin women" even relevant? I can't tell, but it seems like your mind is already made up, no?

This. What’s your point, OP? Yes, they’re terribly jealous of you. Does that feel good?

I think the goal of the thread has probably been satisfied.

I'm sure guys want to date the fat women just because they are easy lays, and that those women are consumed by thinking about OP's weight loss. Is that it? Was there more that we were supposed to cover?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you looked tired or stressed out. The comment, rude as it was, was not necessarily about your weight.

It was because they commented on my weight loss.

The salon full of ladies knew you lost weight? You knew they gained weight? All of them gained weight? Troll.

I explained in prior posts that I was a customer at this salon. We saw each other ever few months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, honest question: are you *asking* if it could be them, as in you think it might be that you actually looked sick, but maybe not -- or are you telling people you were treated badly, and you think it was out of jealousy for having lost weight while they gained?

I mean, is talking about anything other than "fat women are jealous of thin women" even relevant? I can't tell, but it seems like your mind is already made up, no?

This. What’s your point, OP? Yes, they’re terribly jealous of you. Does that feel good?

I think the goal of the thread has probably been satisfied.

I'm sure guys want to date the fat women just because they are easy lays, and that those women are consumed by thinking about OP's weight loss. Is that it? Was there more that we were supposed to cover?

Something is wrong with you. I won't even bother replying.

[Anonymous]

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1. They’re jealous. Ignore.

2. You look pale and tired. Get outside a bit, take multivitamins.

3. Well done on your weight loss!!!

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's 100% because they are used to seeing you fatter.

Possibly but I didn't make any remarks about their weight gain and they had seen me just a few months ago when I was a little less thin and didn't say anything. Prior to this I hadn't experienced skinny shaming in my life. It is worse than fat shame.

It depends on how much weight you lost in that few months. If it was enough weight loss that they noticed (when they didn’t comment before) Maybe the drastic change is what they were concerned about. Give them the benefit of the doubt . Why automatic assume they were jealous. Sounds like you all are friends if you meet up every few months at the salon. Maybe they were reaching out to you in case you needed help and were in fact sick.

Also have you considered that maybe you do “look” sick?

We aren't friends. They work in the salon. I haven't been told by anyone else I looked sick. I am also in my 30s and everyone in my family ages well so can't be due to age. No wrinkles, gray hairs, or saghyness. The thought that people are used to seeing certain bigger body types instead of thinner ones did cross my mind. But at that weight I felt my best and looked my best. I gained back 8 and its not the same. I feel fat now and wide! But I felt so thin in comparison to most people in the regular everyday dmv. To be called sick though by people who are used to seeing bigger stung.

My sister is a stylist and tells me her coworkers are mean, bitter and petty.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

I am naturally thin too. About 5'5/115, which isn't even underweight, but I have a Jewish Mother, who is .... a Jewish Mother.

She calls me every day to make sure I have enough to eat, if I'm eating well, don't forget to have something to eat.

I'm 35.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you do look sick or perhaps they are jealous. Nobody cares, though, either way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you do look sick or perhaps they are jealous. Nobody cares, though, either way

That's pretty much it.

[Anonymous]

Different people look different at their "ideal weight." I probably would look unhealthy at the ideal weight because of my body type. What matters is that you are comfortable with where you are and how you look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5ft but at 104 I was told I looked sick. I didn't have pudgy upper arms anymore and my stomach was nearly flat. I had a longer slim neck and a slender back and thighs and I had model defined cheekbones. I felt I looked average/normal and prettier. But when I walked into the salon full of ladies who had all gained weight during the pandemic I was told I looked sick? Could it just be them?

So 104 isn’t your ideal weight. It’s your goal weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different people look different at their "ideal weight." I probably would look unhealthy at the ideal weight because of my body type. What matters is that you are comfortable with where you are and how you look.

When I was younger, if I fell below a certain weight, I did look gaunt. People would ask, with genuine concern, if I was feeling okay. It is possible to look unwell if you've lost weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's 100% because they are used to seeing you fatter.

Possibly but I didn't make any remarks about their weight gain and they had seen me just a few months ago when I was a little less thin and didn't say anything. Prior to this I hadn't experienced skinny shaming in my life. It is worse than fat shame.

It depends on how much weight you lost in that few months. If it was enough weight loss that they noticed (when they didn’t comment before) Maybe the drastic change is what they were concerned about. Give them the benefit of the doubt . Why automatic assume they were jealous. Sounds like you all are friends if you meet up every few months at the salon. Maybe they were reaching out to you in case you needed help and were in fact sick.

Also have you considered that maybe you do “look” sick?

We aren't friends. They work in the salon. I haven't been told by anyone else I looked sick. I am also in my 30s and everyone in my family ages well so can't be due to age. No wrinkles, gray hairs, or saghyness. The thought that people are used to seeing certain bigger body types instead of thinner ones did cross my mind. But at that weight I felt my best and looked my best. I gained back 8 and its not the same. I feel fat now and wide! But I felt so thin in comparison to most people in the regular everyday dmv. To be called sick though by people who are used to seeing bigger stung.

Aside from being 50 lbs overweight as recently as a few months ago your genes are perfect, I guess. Congrats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally thin too. About 5'5/115, which isn't even underweight, but I have a Jewish Mother, who is .... a Jewish Mother.

She calls me every day to make sure I have enough to eat, if I'm eating well, don't forget to have something to eat.

I'm 35.

This is me. I have been told that I'm too skinny, but not that I look sick. As I get older, if I drop a couple of pounds, it shows up in my face, so that sucks. If I gain a couple of pounds, it shows up in my belly, which also sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally thin too. About 5'5/115, which isn't even underweight, but I have a Jewish Mother, who is .... a Jewish Mother.

She calls me every day to make sure I have enough to eat, if I'm eating well, don't forget to have something to eat.

I'm 35.

That's not a weight issue, it's a lack of boundaries with your mom issue, and if you gained 10 lbs, it'd be another damn thing.

[Anonymous]

Best humblebrag ever -- I love it! Why care about the opinions of people you are not close to in any real way? When I weighed 108 lbs at 5'6 all comments about my appearance were not positive but I had finally reached my dream weight. It was unhealthy, and I will never do damaging things out of vanity again.