Does anyone else dealing with an elderly ill parent feel like they have an abuser in their life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, can mom afford a case manager? if so, let that person organize her help, advocate for her and be a contact person for relatives. It's expensive. Beware, they sometimes just want to collect the money and turn it back on you. You may have to go through a few, but a good one is worth it when she understands it is her job to manage services and field complaints. A good one will work as a team member with you.

Don't do this--especially now w/ Covid they won't even be able to see your mom. You will end up having to deal w/ your mom and now this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. It wasn't until my elderly mother threatened to kill me and ended up with "homicidal ideation" in her medical records that anyone took me seriously. Now everyone wants me to be sad that she's dead, but I actually just feel like I'm not walking on eggshells for the first time in my life. A weight has finally been lifted.

Do you know what disorder she had?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, can mom afford a case manager? if so, let that person organize her help, advocate for her and be a contact person for relatives. It's expensive. Beware, they sometimes just want to collect the money and turn it back on you. You may have to go through a few, but a good one is worth it when she understands it is her job to manage services and field complaints. A good one will work as a team member with you.

Don't do this--especially now w/ Covid they won't even be able to see your mom. You will end up having to deal w/ your mom and now this person.

They do virtual or in person. Case Managers should be vaccinated already, same with elderly over 75. They wear PPE. It's about as safe as it's going to get for this.