Is cosplay weird in your book?

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah I do think it’s really weird and lame. I would not be happy if this were my spouse.

But then I wouldn’t have married someone like that anyway. Chicken-egg.

I bet you’re super fun at parties.

Actually I am. It doesn’t bother me if other people want to do it but I wouldn’t be happy if it were my spouse who directly reflects on me. See the difference?

Nope. By calling it “weird and lame,” you’re being judgmental and nasty.

She wants to know what people honestly think, I’m telling her. I wouldn’t spontaneously volunteer this info to someone who hadn’t asked first.

Does no good for her to think others wouldn’t find this weird and lame, esp. if he starts going to theme parks or conventions in costumes.

You’re assume he cares what people like you think. She clearly cares, but he might not.

No I don’t think he cares. People who wear those costumes know it is weird and don’t care. SHE cares and wants to know if other people find it weird too. Why are you policing this person’s thread? Make your own if you care so deeply.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah I do think it’s really weird and lame. I would not be happy if this were my spouse.

But then I wouldn’t have married someone like that anyway. Chicken-egg.

I bet you’re super fun at parties.

Actually I am. It doesn’t bother me if other people want to do it but I wouldn’t be happy if it were my spouse who directly reflects on me. See the difference?

Nope. By calling it “weird and lame,” you’re being judgmental and nasty.

She wants to know what people honestly think, I’m telling her. I wouldn’t spontaneously volunteer this info to someone who hadn’t asked first.

Does no good for her to think others wouldn’t find this weird and lame, esp. if he starts going to theme parks or conventions in costumes.

You’re assume he cares what people like you think. She clearly cares, but he might not.

No I don’t think he cares. People who wear those costumes know it is weird and don’t care. SHE cares and wants to know if other people find it weird too. Why are you policing this person’s thread? Make your own if you care so deeply.

No — they like it and don’t care what people think. Only you think it’s weird. They don’t think it’s weird — if they did, they wouldn’t be doing it.

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True cosplay where you’re pretending to be the character around other people? Yes, very

Dressing up for a Halloween party? No

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Anonymous wrote:True cosplay where you’re pretending to be the character around other people? Yes, very

Dressing up for a Halloween party? No

Pretending to be the character around other people is literally what Halloween parties are. It’s just that Halloween is a day where we’ve all decided dressing up is ok. It’s pretty arbitrary.

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Anonymous wrote:True cosplay where you’re pretending to be the character around other people? Yes, very

Dressing up for a Halloween party? No

Pretending to be the character around other people is literally what Halloween parties are. It’s just that Halloween is a day where we’ve all decided dressing up is ok. It’s pretty arbitrary.

Lol, do you actually go to Halloween parties? Only annoying people stay “in character” after the first little bit.

There’s a difference between cosplay conventions and Halloween parties. For one thing, most adults choose some type of joke. It’s not intended to be serious business like cosplay, which, as I understand it, is like fantasy play among children. It’s weird. I don’t care that people do it but it’s not my thing and I would lose respect for my husband if he wanted to pretend to be...idk, Obi Wan Kenobi for a day or something.

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Is it like a sexual thing? Weirdly kinky but possibly fun.

Elsewhere? Ick.

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Years ago adults in Star Wars gear would visit the children’s hospital and that was nice. But not sure Star Wars is that popular anymore or if those type of groups still do that. That would be ok I guess.

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If my husband did this, it would be a problem. But only because he has never before expressed interest in such things, and it goes very far against his type and personality. Therefore, I would be concerned that something was wrong with him. If it turned out that nothing was wrong, and this was a bonafide new interest, than I would not have a problem.

Nothing is a problem unless it creates a problem, or is a symptom of one. If neither is at issue here, let him have his fun and join him if you can. At worst, he will seem geeky to the buttoned up or too-cool-for-school types.

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Anonymous wrote:Years ago adults in Star Wars gear would visit the children’s hospital and that was nice. But not sure Star Wars is that popular anymore or if those type of groups still do that. That would be ok I guess.

They still exist. Google the 501st Legion. If you see Stormtroopers outside of Disneyworld/Disneyland, it is likely them. The requirement to get into the Legion is building a movie-quality suit at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Years ago adults in Star Wars gear would visit the children’s hospital and that was nice. But not sure Star Wars is that popular anymore or if those type of groups still do that. That would be ok I guess.

They still exist. Google the 501st Legion. If you see Stormtroopers outside of Disneyworld/Disneyland, it is likely them. The requirement to get into the Legion is building a movie-quality suit at home.

P.S. to the above. They do tons of charity work, so I'm not sure I see them in the same category as convention-attending cosplayers.

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Anonymous wrote:Been married for 15 years and we have dressed up for Halloween almost every year. Most years the standard party city stuff. A couple of times we ordered more expensive costumes if we had something fun to do (a party or event).
Maybe it’s Covid boredom but DH started working on a more serious/realistic costume. We do not go to conventions or comic con stuff or anything so I am not sure what the point of this elaborate costume is.
It is not even anything our kids are into (Star Wars) so obviously just for him. Seems weird to me but maybe it is a new thing he just spontaneously wanted to do. He says it is just something we wanted try, apparently for no purpose. Is this weird or what?

NP. So....have you actually shown an interest (not judgement--just interest/curiosity) and asked him? "He says it is just something he wanted to try" sounds like your ask, if there was one, might have sounded judgmental to him so he shrugged it off and didn't explain anything further. Take a little real interest if you care about getting to know your own husband better.

People's interests change. Maybe he's been rewatching Star Wars films when you're not around and you don't realize he's into them. Maybe he looked up conventions etc. and hopes that by summer or fall this year he could attend one, or maybe he's always been just a little interested in going to a ComicCon or whatever, but never told you because he realized you would think it was weird and would judge him for it.

If my own DH started doing what you describe, he'd already have told me why and asked my opinion and I'd have helped him source materials online. But he's not one to hide his interests and we take an interest in each other's hobbies even if we don't share every single hobby in depth. OP, do you and your DH talk much in general about things other than day to day stuff, work, kids, etc.? The fact you seem surprised by and leery of his interest is not a good sign for overall communication between you.

As could be expected on DCUM, this turned into a thread of pro- and anti-costume posts unrelated to why YOUR husband is enjoying himself this way.

Why do you care, OP, whether strangers on the internet think what you describe (less than objective description, by the way) is "weird"? You seem to think it is weird, and that's affecting how you see your husband. Talk to him.

And keep some perspective. There have been tons of posts about people drinking more during the pandemic, couples hitting marital problems, breaking up, issues with kids, plenty of serious stuff. Your DH is trying a creative hobby you don't "get." Not much of a problem compared to what he could be doing, no?

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Anonymous wrote:Years ago adults in Star Wars gear would visit the children’s hospital and that was nice. But not sure Star Wars is that popular anymore or if those type of groups still do that. That would be ok I guess.

They still exist. Google the 501st Legion. If you see Stormtroopers outside of Disneyworld/Disneyland, it is likely them. The requirement to get into the Legion is building a movie-quality suit at home.

P.S. to the above. They do tons of charity work, so I'm not sure I see them in the same category as convention-attending cosplayers.

I know someone who does this and she definitely goes to conventions, too, so I think there's overlap. It looks really fun.

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For me, yes. For you, no. I mean, I do occassionally dress up, or go to parties where we dress up. But I probably wouldn't throw a costume party. Whatever. Who cares? Do you like it? Do it. Do you not like it? Don't do it. So easy.

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Anonymous wrote:It is weird, but who cares.

+1. Really strange but it’s no big deal.

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I don't think it is weird, assuming it's just for fun. But if it is really a checking out of realty type thing... I'd be worried.