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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Been married for 15 years and we have dressed up for Halloween almost every year.  Most years the standard party city stuff.  A couple of times we ordered more expensive costumes if we had something fun to do (a party or event).
Maybe it’s Covid boredom but DH started working on a more serious/realistic costume.  We do not go to conventions or comic con stuff or anything so I am not sure what the point of this elaborate costume is.
It is not even anything our kids are into (Star Wars) so obviously just for him.  Seems weird to me but maybe it is a new thing he just spontaneously wanted to do.  He says it is just something we wanted try, apparently for no purpose.  Is this weird or what?[/quote]

NP. So....have you actually shown an interest (not judgement--just interest/curiosity) and asked him? "He says it is just something he wanted to try" sounds like your ask, if there was one, might have sounded judgmental to him so he shrugged it off and didn't explain anything further. Take a little real interest if you care about getting to know your own husband better.

People's interests change. Maybe he's been rewatching Star Wars films when you're not around and you don't realize he's into them. Maybe he looked up conventions etc. and hopes that by summer or fall this year he could attend one, or maybe he's always been just a little interested in going to a ComicCon or whatever, but never told you because he realized you would think it was weird and would judge him for it.

If my own DH started doing what you describe, he'd already have told me why and asked my opinion and I'd have helped him source materials online. But he's not one to hide his interests and we take an interest in each other's hobbies even if we don't share every single hobby in depth. OP, do you and your DH talk much in general about things other than day to day stuff, work, kids, etc.? The fact you seem surprised by and leery of his interest is not a good sign for overall communication between you.

As could be expected on DCUM, this turned into a thread of pro- and anti-costume posts unrelated to why YOUR husband is enjoying himself this way.

Why do you care, OP, whether strangers on the internet think what you describe (less than objective description, by the way) is "weird"? You seem to think it is weird, and that's affecting how you see your husband. Talk to him.

And keep some perspective. There have been tons of posts about people drinking more during the pandemic, couples hitting marital problems, breaking up, issues with kids, plenty of serious stuff. Your DH is trying a creative hobby you don't "get." Not much of a problem compared to what he could be doing, no?

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