Odd question: bear with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s anonymous, I’ll fess up and take the DCUM ridicule. Yes. At 11:50 on 1/31 when we finished EA schools apps and honors college apps and whatever else and no one had slept for days, I saw a school with EA that had been on my kids list (free, no essay) and we hadn’t visited yet and hit submit for it too.

Of course, 6 minutes later, I realized what I had done. So, I sat down, explained to my kid that the lack of sleep and stress had gotten to me too. That what I did was wrong and I was sorry. It was a screw up, and yes, sometimes moms screw up. And did he want me to withdraw it ?

As it turns out, the school was still on his to consider list, we just had not visited. He was deferred, at which point he pulled the app because we had learned more and he liked other schools he had acceptances to more.

But, wow, he used the story to embarrass me for 6 month, So yes. Even with the best of intentions, moms screw up. At which point you suck it up, do a mea culpa and model a graceful apology.

I don’t think it hurt our relationship any because I knew I was wrong and fixed it. Now, if I hadn’t fessed up until April, that would be different.


I am 1000% not behind sneak applying as a plan to force your kid into the school you want. Anyone parenting a teen knows that this makes it less likely, not more, the kid goes. And, it’s a massive loss of trust at a time when your kid will stop coming to you if they don’t trust you.

That said, here’s my thought when I’m rationale. Kid can chose any college on his list that meets financial perimeters when the numbers are in. This means parents can veto College of Southern Breasts. But give a lot of leeway— like 1 or maybe 2 schools. We did none, but he had a super safety, and we all agreed that if he got into any other school, it was off the table.

As the people who pay for college, we think parents can tell kids they need to apply if there is a school that looks perfect and you *haven’t visited* yet. We did this with one that wasn’t near anything else. Kid had to apply so it was an option if she loved it (COVID hit and we never made it). So, I can see saying to a kid, you need to apply since we are out of time. But you don’t have to go. Of course, if you are looking in state, that doesn’t work.

PP, I thought you were a moron for what you did, but this just seals the deal.

I’m not hiding the fact I did something moronic. I owned up to it with my kid, apologized and spent months getting teased. If you re-read, never once did I say, and it was a great decision. My point is that it wasn’t. Although, if you haven’t been editing essays on Halloween at 11 pm with the whole family involved (including the 10th grade sibling, who is a great editor), you just don’t know. Lack of sleep, lots of stress— they lead to bad decisions.

I will say that this particular college has shot up in the rankings recently. And I think it has to do with the fact that it’s one of the only top non-engineering schools to offer EA, no fee to apply and no essays. It’s very easy to check their box. And their acceptance rate has dropped a lot in recent years. So, I’m not the only one making dumb decisions at 11:50 pm on 10/31.

Amd hey, If your okay with your kid going to Big Boobs U, then Roll Tide!

You are a nasty, ignorant, ridiculous person.