Dating someone much more accomplished than you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH isn’t super successful like this guy, but plenty successful (biglaw partner) and I am hardly employable (SAHM with an advanced degree but out of the workforce for a long time). We didn’t start out this way, in fact I’m older so he was into my career by the time he finished law school. But I do still feel awkward when I think about it. I always thought I would be successful like him, and, well, I’m not.

But I try not to compare, and I’m getting close to believing DH when he says that all work in a partnership is equally valuable. Income and success are nothing in the grand scheme of things. What truly matters is relationships and other ways to make life meaningful.

But it’s a process! And not easy. But like most hard things, it’s worth it. Even if things don’t progress with this guy, I would do this inner work to separate success from your personal worth as a human being.

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Anonymous wrote:So I recently met this guy online (both of us divorced) and we've been talking. He's mentioned his work here and there but never really got into specific details. Anyways recently he finally told me what he really does - he's the President & CEO of a large company. He shared his online profiles and I found out he also sits on several boards. Me, on the other hand - I have a decent but average job at a Fortune 500 but I'm no rockstar. He's very down to earth and not flashy or braggy at all, but now I feel like my career just pales in comparison and I'm feeling a little self conscious.

He's really nice and we have been taking it slow and its still early on so might not even go anywhere. Anyone who's been in a similar situation, how did you navigate it? Did it create a weird dynamic in the relationship?

Are you saying that you never googled him before him telling you what he did?

Come on...

OP here. No because he gave me a different first name initially. I never asked for a last name and didn't give mine either. Just never came up. I figured all of that would come out eventually. I knew he was 'a' boss at work, I didn't know he was THE boss.

oof. red flag. I briefly dated a guy almost exactly like that - gave a fake name and didn’t say what he did exactly. I put the pieces together and figured out through googling that he was a married CEO.

OP - yes, but he voluntarily told me this information (of his own accord) and shared his LinkedIn. He was also deeply apologetic for not telling me the truth upfront but said he wanted to make sure that he could trust me first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just remember, we all sit on a toilet and use toilet paper.

We really aren’t all that different.

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[Anonymous]

The best strategy is to post photos of you running in a bikini on Tinder and then go from there. It should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best strategy is to post photos of you running in a bikini on Tinder and then go from there. It should be fine.

Did you even read the opening post? Comment is irrelevant and comes off as bitter and/or foolish.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re the woman? Not an issue.

That statement is both terribly offensive yet true in practice.

Why are you offended? Relationships aren’t about resumes.

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OP, are you reasonably good-looking? If you are, you hold the cards. Fret no more.