Blonde, Blue-Eyed White Women

[Anonymous]

What an odd thread. Beauty and ugly has nothing to do with color. I've seen ugly blue eyed blondes and stunning asians, Africans, etc, and you have too, op. I'm not sure what game is being played by creating this thread but I don't know anybody who actually thinks this way.

I have not once classified a woman as beautiful because she had blonde hair and blue eyes. You get classified as beautiful based on how your features work together. Period.

[Anonymous]

I am blonde, blue-eyed and tall. I feel there is a subset of white men that fetishize my look and I always think they are white supremacy Trumper guys. I run like hell

[Anonymous]

I am in my late 40s, Jewish, with dark curly hair. If anything, I thought that the barriers between me and generally accepted standards of beauty were the curls and the nose. But otherwise, who would even look at blondes next to Sophia Loren and Elizabeth Taylor! And Anne Bancroft as Mrs. Robinson, of course..

[Anonymous]

1. Most women (and all young girls) feel insecure at some point.

2. Normal for OP to feel insecure as a young girl.

3. Yes, some super models are blonde like Christie Brinkley. Other super models and actresses even 20-30 years ago were brunette. Think: Cindy Crawford, Iman, and I’m blanking on the other names but can see their dark hair.

4. The Kardashians aren’t a blonde backlash. Heck, they go blonde and pale all the time. Rather, they are the ones that changed the standard from heroin chic rail thin to over the top sexy curves. In the 90s, models and celebrities were anorexic looking with no boobs (Paris Hilton still has the body of a 12 year old boy). The Kardashians made curves in fashion, and everyone who wasn’t a size 0 embraced them for it.

Lastly: why must we discuss this as US vs THEM?

Why must you criticize blondes as being washed out, and praise non-blondes as having beauty longer?

Why can’t you just say Christie looks great and so does Kris Jenner? Both look great. Fact.

[Anonymous]

https://www.marieclaire.com/fashion/g2173/supermodels-of-the-90s/

The top models in the 90s were diverse, and many/most were naturally brunette...and the blondes often opted for dark hair (Linda Evangelista).

[Anonymous]

So this thread is about a white, brunette woman complaining that they don’t/didn’t get the attention like a white, blonde woman?

Yeah, okay

[Anonymous]

https://www.marieclaire.com/fashion/g2168/supermodels-of-the-80s/

Top models of the 1980s were mostly brunette.

[Anonymous]

https://www.marieclaire.com/fashion/g2165/supermodels-of-the-70s/

You know the drill.

[Anonymous]

In your late 50s and you think about stuff like this OP?

[Anonymous]

The Kardashians do not appropriate Black beauty, op.

Heck, they dictate fashion and beauty for all races and ethnicities for certain women/teens who like their style.

I like that they constantly change their look. Blonde, brunette, super pale, super bronze, short hair, long hair, etc.

Plus, that family single-handedly made curves fashionable.

[Anonymous]

When I was a blonde teen in the late 80s/early 90s, I sometimes wished I had dark features like Winona Ryder and other celebrities and models at the time. It’s normal to want what you don’t have.

[Anonymous]

Dated yes, but men all over the globe place blondes on a pedestal, and always will. Truly the most coveted and coddled beings on the planet.
It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am in my late fifties, so, I grew up surrounded by media: print, ads, tv, etc. presenting the ideal woman as a blonde like Christie Brinkley or Farrah Fawcett. Articles in all types of magazines would always mention blondes as the de facto vision of a beautiful woman. Children were described as tow-headed in a beatific angels sort of way. Specifically, I am talking about white women with fine, Nordic features. I realize anyone can have highlighted hair, but I am referencing women that look like they may have been blonde as a child.

I am white, but as an Italian brunette that looks Mediterranean, I have never really felt that I fit in with the US standards of beauty. There are obviously more inclusive and diverse representations of beauty now, but I wonder if blondes feel something like backlash? If you’re a blonde woman, do you ever feel sort of targeted and stereotyped as an entitled UMC athleisure- clad woman, mean-girl cheerleader, or Fox News anchor? Do you feel like women of color dislike you or feel uncomfortable in your presence? Do you feel like you need to signal that you’re an ally and wonder if it appears awkward?

Slightly off-topic, but I think the Kardashians are popular because of young women who look a little like me in my 20s. For all their plasticine parts and appropriating AA beauty, it is still an aspirational look that is at least partially achievable by a lot of Latina, biracial, etc., women. They have zero chance of looking like Rosie Huntington-Whiteley.

Doesn’t it seem like every thread on how to look like a wealthy wasp is just code for white blonde coveting? I am also curious to hear from non-white women about your own internalized messages. I hate the fact that I secretly hope my daughter marries someone less “ethnic” looking than myself.

It is very very rare to see a blonde blue eyed (not bimbo) women advertised as beautiful. They are all dark haired brown eyes. Seriously look at the media. It is VERY rare to see a NON BIMBO blonde advertising anything beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What an odd thread. Beauty and ugly has nothing to do with color. I've seen ugly blue eyed blondes and stunning asians, Africans, etc, and you have too, op. I'm not sure what game is being played by creating this thread but I don't know anybody who actually thinks this way.

I have not once classified a woman as beautiful because she had blonde hair and blue eyes. You get classified as beautiful based on how your features work together. Period.

Agree! Attractive is not synonymous with beauty. Plenty of attractive people. I find it hard to believe that an average, attractive brunette turned blonde suddenly receives more attention. Self fulfilling prophecy. An average, attractive blonde is never going to be beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but universally, there are very beautiful people, and no single race prevails.

We evolved from Africa as dark skinned humans. Our molecular make up is stardust from supernovas. For my religious peeps, God waved the wand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter has blue eyes & blonde hair and only POC have commented on this. I have always just assumed this is because her look is more novel to them. In my family, and where I grew up, being blonde, especially as a child, is pretty typical, so no one cares or maybe even notices?

The comments have always come from woman who say something pleasant to her or to me about her looks.

I also have a blue-eyed blond. We used to live in a majority Black neighborhood and now we live in a majority Dominican neighborhood. My daughter gets a lot of compliments from older ladies, which comes from a kind and friendly place, but I cringe when someone is going on about my child's eyes and hair, she looks like a little angel (she's a hellion), she looks like Elsa, while their own grandchild is standing right there.