Blonde, Blue-Eyed White Women

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Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

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I am in my late fifties, so, I grew up surrounded by media: print, ads, tv, etc. presenting the ideal woman as a blonde like Christie Brinkley or Farrah Fawcett. Articles in all types of magazines would always mention blondes as the de facto vision of a beautiful woman. Children were described as tow-headed in a beatific angels sort of way. Specifically, I am talking about white women with fine, Nordic features. I realize anyone can have highlighted hair, but I am referencing women that look like they may have been blonde as a child.

I am white, but as an Italian brunette that looks Mediterranean, I have never really felt that I fit in with the US standards of beauty. There are obviously more inclusive and diverse representations of beauty now, but I wonder if blondes feel something like backlash? If you’re a blonde woman, do you ever feel sort of targeted and stereotyped as an entitled UMC athleisure- clad woman, mean-girl cheerleader, or Fox News anchor? Do you feel like women of color dislike you or feel uncomfortable in your presence? Do you feel like you need to signal that you’re an ally and wonder if it appears awkward?

Slightly off-topic, but I think the Kardashians are popular because of young women who look a little like me in my 20s. For all their plasticine parts and appropriating AA beauty, it is still an aspirational look that is at least partially achievable by a lot of Latina, biracial, etc., women. They have zero chance of looking like Rosie Huntington-Whiteley.

Doesn’t it seem like every thread on how to look like a wealthy wasp is just code for white blonde coveting? I am also curious to hear from non-white women about your own internalized messages. I hate the fact that I secretly hope my daughter marries someone less “ethnic” looking than myself.

I mean, beauty standards are about a lot more than your hair and eye color. I'm a blue-eyed blonde but I also had acne my whole youth, size 8, curly hair, glasses. No one ever mistook me for Christie Brinkley and I don't feel a "backlash" or a need to signal that I am an "ally" of the non-blond.

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Anonymous wrote:Sophia Loren types have always been hot.

What I would like to see is a female equivalent to Adam Driver: a woman with a freakishly weird pancake face who is considered hot.

I feel like Anjelica Huston is the female equivalent--they are both jolie laide.

Uma Therman.

I can't decide if Uma and Adam are homely or hot. To me they look like they are BOTH. Which is odd but I kind of love it, I love when people don't fit the mold and our brains trip out on it a little

Totally agree, both weird-looking, both totally hot

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a natural platinum blonde, parents are Swedish. My hair is down to my waist and yes I get a lot of attention BUT mostly outside of the US. People in India literally followed me around. In the Middle East, people looked at me like I was alien, like they’d never seen someone like me. In Italy it was ciao Bella all day long, but truthfully they say that to anyone. Here in the US I really don’t think people care. When I wear no makeup and my hair in a bun, I look like a prairie girl on the farm because natural platinum blondes have white eyelashes and white eyebrows. Trust me I don’t wish this on my worst enemy. I would love to have mousy brown hair all day long and zero male attention, so I could have natural brow eyebrows and lashes. I would love to have olive skin and dark hair.

Oh, no! You poor thing! Ciao Bella, for real? And like you are an alien in the Middle East? Wow, my DD was turning heads in Italy too! And we lived in Egypt. But, DD is not a platinum blonde. She was a regular blonde at the time, and most of my friends were blonde many Dutch and English. So, here is the thing, people only touch the hair of kids, if you want to avoid this attention in the Middle East, maybe cover your hair??? As is the custom?
And cut the BS with "I would like to have brown hair," your post reeks of some idiotic narcissist love for your hair! At best, hair touching is slightly annoying, not the thing you do not wish on your worst enemy. How come no adults in my group had their hair touched in Egypt? We lived there for years! There is a bottle of color for you too, so cut the crap. DD died her blonde hair brown! It took less than half an hour!
I have never seen such a vapid post, apart from the one where she is Nordic blonde but not the U.S. blonde, people can tell her apart straight away by her looks and hoity-toity narcissism, which she called posh behavior or something. Are you her? I guess the stereotype is true!

I didn’t read all of this, because clearly you haven’t travelled much. You don’t have to wear a hijab in the UAE, Lebanon, Oman, Kurdistan, or Jordan where I travelled. People in China actually did touch my hair. I went out of my way to say it’s not so great being blonde, but you can’t get over your anti blonde obsession, so I don’t know what to tell you.

DP but you don't *have* to wear a hijab in any country except Iran and even that is iffy. The pp is just saying that if you honestly believed that your hair was causing a raucous, nothing stopped you from putting on a hijab.

Separately, I have a similar genetic makeup to yours and I have blonde hair, but in Jordan people asked if I was Jordanian. Iraq, Lebanon, etc are similar. Sorry, but we don't have the market cornered on the blonde gene. There are plenty of blondes in the ME. I think you just want to be different. Re: East Asian countries, yes, they are more racially homogeneous and being blonde is different. But in the Middle East, you're not special. I don't want to be mean but your insistence that people have never seen blonde people before seems a little ill-informed and offensive.

I'm have brown hair and I also got followed around in the Middle East. And got called out to in Italy. I'm not some Cindy Crawford type, either. Five feet tall, no boobs to speak of. Just saying that you might have been attributing the attention to your hair, when really it was that Western women are easy targets some places.

Yes to western women, but it is amplified the lighter you are and the less makeup you have on

Yeah, I was the only blond in a group of girls on a European trip. I was definitely not the prettiest but I got the most attention in Italy and Spain. Also got followed in India, again the only one in a group of Western tourists (men and women). I assume it's just novelty.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

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It's funny that someone said blonde is associated with youth b/c I know more and more women who go blond later in life for the grey hiding benefits. I'm currently contemplating how to lighten my hair to hide the grey.

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Anonymous wrote:I've always found blondes to be the least attractive people, by far.


Taylor Swift, Reese Witherspoon, January Jones, Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Kristen Dunst, Charlize Theron, Amanda Seyfried, Meg Ryan, Sienna Miller, Amber Heard, Michelle Pfeiffer,, Christie Brinkley

vs

Catherine Zeta Jones, Angelina Jolie, Monica Bellucci, Cindy Crawford, Natalie Portman, Megan Fox, Keira Knightley, Christy Turlington, Liz Hurley, Kate Beckinsale, Rachel Weisz


And I deliberately left out some of the most stunning women in the world like Salma Hayek, Penelope Cruz, Zoe Kravitz, Jennifer Lopez, Jessica Alba, Freida Pinto, Adriana Lima, Halle Berry, Lupita, Zoe Saldana, Priyanka Chopra, Liya Kebede, Ciara, and on and on and on.


I mean it's almost unfair how much less attractive blondes are as a whole.

Lmao

Pretty sure it’s ok for everyone to have different preferences

Of course. But for some reason blondes insist that they’re everyone’s preference.

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I don’t understand all these brunettes saying they’ve tried blonde. There is no way I could go blonde, even with the world’s best stylist. I would look ridiculous.

Picture Jennifer Connelly or Rachel Weisz as a blonde. Nope.

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I am dark skinned and dark haired. My DH is opposite - very fair. He loves everything about me. I am ok with only him considering me beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

People who are blonde as children usually have their hair darkens with age over time. This is due to biological factors. That is why there are a lot more tow-headed children than adults, the blonde darkens to a darker shade over time. People then subliminally associate light hair with youth.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

Blonde is sort of like supple skin or shiny hair texture- it is what many children have and people lose these physical traits with age.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

(White) people generally have lighter hair when younger, then it darkens. I know tons of women who were blonde as children, then brunette as adults.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand all these brunettes saying they’ve tried blonde. There is no way I could go blonde, even with the world’s best stylist. I would look ridiculous.

Picture Jennifer Connelly or Rachel Weisz as a blonde. Nope.

+1. It never looks right to go beyond 2-3 shades from your natural color.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

I’m a natural blonde and my hair darkened during/just after my pregnancy, and it stayed that way. When I was a child and teen/young adult, it was bright blonde. Many blondes’ hair darkens with age and/or pregnancy, so yeah, in my family, blonde is associated with youth.

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde is attractive because it's associated with youth. This isn't racism but the ageism inherent in the laws of attraction. Youth=fertility. It's that simple.

Why would blonde be associated with youth?

I’m a natural blonde and my hair darkened during/just after my pregnancy, and it stayed that way. When I was a child and teen/young adult, it was bright blonde. Many blondes’ hair darkens with age and/or pregnancy, so yeah, in my family, blonde is associated with youth.

if you were born blonde then its ok to dye your hair later on, it looks like silly when people who have never been blonde or from ethnic backgrounds where blonde is impossible do it