
I think it's a little different for the person who actuallys has the fetus growing inside....anyway, I was convinced DC#2 was a girl for a variety of reasons. Uhm, yeah, no. Boy. Even mother's instict is wrong. I'm wondering why you'd even want to have another child when you're DH doesn't have a good relationship with your child....think I'd try to work on that first. But guess that's a different thread. |
He's got a real problem--he's a giant ass!! |
OP have you told him that it's the man's sperm the part responsible for having a boy or a girl growing inside of you?
How can he direct his frustration to the child when it's only his fault? |
Clearly he needs help and as a couple, you need some guidance. OP -- there are some great couples therapists out there. OR if he's resistant, maybe go talk to someone yourself to have an objective person to a) be able to vent to and b) get some insights into how to deal with all of these issues that are arising with him .... |
I'd tell your stepfather that he either has to learn to shut his mouth, or he will not have access to his grandkids. Seriously. It's not okay to talk this way around young children, and I'm assuming he has very little impulse control. I'd put my foot down, but that's just me. |
And yet you decided to have another child with this man???? Okay, now I'm PISSED! Why? Why would you submit another innocent child to that kind of father? Clearly, he loves conditionally. Forget it. You need counseling, with or without him. |
Don't you think you are overreacting a bit? OP's husband just might not know what to do with a little girl. Some men have a harder time bonding with young children (and certainly little girls) than others. I didn't get the sense that OP's husband doesn't love her daughter. She even said he is starting to make more of an effort. You are "PISSED" because....??? This also could be more of a young baby/toddler issue than a girl/boy issue - it is just that OP's DH doesn't know that yet and thinks he will be able to bond instantly with a boy. I would guess a lot of fathers are less engaged during the first 2-3 years, but then become much more so when the child starts interacting back. |
In the OP's own words, "she has on more than one occasion, opted to go to bed without a book instead of having him read to her - yes, it is that bad. " I'm not willing to make excuses for people who bring children into screwed up relationships. |