XH introducing SO to kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may sound left field... run a background check on the SO.

Definitely worth knowing!

And then what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is mad because new woman is thinner, younger, and prettier.

And what did that get the new woman? The old husband?

In my experience, the first wife gets the student loan debt, the long hours raising the kids on her own while the husband build his career etc.

The second wife gets the guy who has no debt and has made partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was she the OW?

I have the same question and if the answer is yes, does this change how everyone would respond? Also, what about the age of the kids?

Sure. I'd start with "have a glass of wine and call a friend to say all the things about them both that you're not gonna say to your kids." As opposed to "what are you thinking???"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is mad because new woman is thinner, younger, and prettier.

And what did that get the new woman? The old husband?

In my experience, the first wife gets the student loan debt, the long hours raising the kids on her own while the husband build his career etc.

The second wife gets the guy who has no debt and has made partner.

Plenty of "debt": alimony and CS. Not to mention he has to pay another woman's kids' way through college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is mad because new woman is thinner, younger, and prettier.

And what did that get the new woman? The old husband?

In my experience, the first wife gets the student loan debt, the long hours raising the kids on her own while the husband build his career etc.

The second wife gets the guy who has no debt and has made partner.

Plenty of "debt": alimony and CS. Not to mention he has to pay another woman's kids' way through college.

Usually Dad gets the family debt as well. And, sometimes Mom is the cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid came running into the house crying at custody exchange because her mom old her she was getting remarried. What my ex does is her business, but a heads up would have been nice before I had a sobbing kid on my hands. Agree with others to leave the door open for your kids to talk about GF and their feelings (good or bad). It does suck to still be tied to an ex this way.

Mom doesn't care about the kids feelings. Its only about her needs.

[Anonymous]

Ok. That's your response. Why contact your lawyer? That's just going to cost you money and it won't change a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was she the OW?

I have the same question and if the answer is yes, does this change how everyone would respond? Also, what about the age of the kids?

My ex-H left and a couple months later introduced our teen daughter to his OW that he had moved in with. He didn't tell me he was doing this. Our daughter was not allowed visitation in her home or to be around OW until our divorce was final a year later. It was best for our child at the time because she was already devastated that he left and double devastated to find out he had a new gf. OW had a daughter too.

After the divorce was final, normal visitation was granted. You can't control what happens after the divorce. Even if it's in your final divorce decree it's not really enforceable and you just end up looking like an ass. Best just to let it go and get used to it.