What's up with everyone wanting to see your newborn the second they are born?

[Anonymous]

Here's my pro tip: don't tell anybody the due date and don't tell people after baby comes for a few days

Oh yes, and your baby, your rules. No is a perfectly fine word in the English language. Don't give explanations, it is an invitation for argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to go out on a limb and say that boomers are just a super selfish generation. They basically want pics to brag to their friends about. I know my grandparents didn’t act like this when their grandchildren were born.

I had a set of relatives who came to “help”. Except help was just them holding the baby when it wasn’t crying. They handed the baby back to me 20x an hour and then complained about how long breastfeeding was. I just cried in the bedroom and nursed 20 hours a day like the baby wanted. I felt so alone. They said I needed formula and that babies shouldn’t nurse that much. When they left, I was finally allowed to nurse in peace in my family room with Dh and bond. I can’t tell you how good it was to hold a happy baby. It’s very depressing to never get to hold one and visitors get all the happy moments. If anyone deserves to hold a sweet content baby it’s mom.

Yes! When I started reading this comment I was going to reply that Boomers are nowhere to be seen when the garbage needs to be taken out. My MIL was a post partum nurse and is on her 2nd marriage with 2 more kids across the country, so you can guess how much help we got when my husband started a new job a week after I gave birth. Likewise my mother was no help to my older sister and her twins.

I gave birth this June and the hospital without random people was AMAZING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's worse. My IL were actually waiting outside the delivery room. I find it funny now.

There is a reason the maternity ward is locked down: psycho relatives!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different strokes for different folks.

(This is all pre-covid)I had 4 family members waiting in hospital waiting room for baby's arrival. I had a long delivery and they all stuck around for more than 12hrs, until almost midnight, to meet new baby. I loved their company and knowing they were there cheering me on. I had 2 sets of friends visit the next day at hospital, and our first weekend home I had 2 more sets of family visit.

I loved every minute of it. My family was genuinely excited to be there and meet new baby and pamper me... but all this to say I loved their company and felt very happy. If it's not your thing then take control of situation and tell people you will let them know when they can visit.

Way too many germs. If your newborn gets a fever they need a spinal tap. Did you know that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not really excited and couldn’t give two Fs about seeing your kid. They are being polite and pretending to be excited for you.

Yup. I'm an expert fawner over babies, because I'm a part of society and I understand my role. But secretly I DGAF about your new kid and I DEFINITELY don't actually want to visit it or hold it.

[Anonymous]

I also think it’s what people think they are supposed to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Throwing it right back at you - why did you choose to have a baby during a pandemic? Sounds like you and your family are on the same page regarding dumb decisions.

Just leave. You’re not wanted here.

OP—just say thank you and we’ll look forward to introducing you to baby once it’s safe

+1.