What's up with everyone wanting to see your newborn the second they are born?

Anonymous
There's worse. My IL were actually waiting outside the delivery room. I find it funny now.
Anonymous
I would be annoyed in your shoes, OP. And I would say no.

But, I get it. Babies grow fast and a 6 week old is different from a newborn. These excited people actually will be missing out on something. That doesn't make it wrong to say no, though.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to go out on a limb and say that boomers are just a super selfish generation. They basically want pics to brag to their friends about. I know my grandparents didn’t act like this when their grandchildren were born.

I had a set of relatives who came to “help”. Except help was just them holding the baby when it wasn’t crying. They handed the baby back to me 20x an hour and then complained about how long breastfeeding was. I just cried in the bedroom and nursed 20 hours a day like the baby wanted. I felt so alone. They said I needed formula and that babies shouldn’t nurse that much. When they left, I was finally allowed to nurse in peace in my family room with Dh and bond. I can’t tell you how good it was to hold a happy baby. It’s very depressing to never get to hold one and visitors get all the happy moments. If anyone deserves to hold a sweet content baby it’s mom.


You're sure they're all boomers? (55+) There are no excited aunt's, uncles, or friends?
Anonymous
I don’t know. I’ve had three babies and was happy my family was excited to meet the new babies. It’d be kind of strange if no one cared that a new human came into the family.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’ve had three babies and was happy my family was excited to meet the new babies. It’d be kind of strange if no one cared that a new human came into the family.


Agree. New babies are a really special joy. My mom and in laws both visited me in the hospital with both kids so far. The first time I was annoyed that they wanted to come to the hospital and couldn't wait at my house but by the second one I got it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:There's worse. My IL were actually waiting outside the delivery room. I find it funny now.

At least they were not in the delivery room!
Anonymous
The newborn phase is gone in 3 months. Never to return. It goes super fast.
Anonymous
We had a bris for our son and so family members and some close friends got to see the baby 8 days after birth. Pre-Pandemic, of course.

I have to admit, it was much easier having everyone see the baby in one fell swoop. Everyone was excited but we weren't pummeled by nagging requests because everyone knew they'd see the baby right away.

Anonymous
Different strokes for different folks.

(This is all pre-covid)I had 4 family members waiting in hospital waiting room for baby's arrival. I had a long delivery and they all stuck around for more than 12hrs, until almost midnight, to meet new baby. I loved their company and knowing they were there cheering me on. I had 2 sets of friends visit the next day at hospital, and our first weekend home I had 2 more sets of family visit.

I loved every minute of it. My family was genuinely excited to be there and meet new baby and pamper me... but all this to say I loved their company and felt very happy. If it's not your thing then take control of situation and tell people you will let them know when they can visit.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:30 weeks pregnant and been very irritable lately so let me if I am being too sensitive. I'm not sure why everyone in my family has been begging to either drop by and look at the baby through a window or pursued me to try to stay with us the first couple weeks.

BESIDES the fact that we are in a pandemic??? Hello people? They do know the newborn isn't going to magically disappear right? It's honestly been super frustrating reminding my family I have 0 interest in seeing anyone the first couple weeks.


Ahhh OP but this is where you’re wrong. The “newborn” DOES disappear in the blink of an eye. They know this, and you do not.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:30 weeks pregnant and been very irritable lately so let me if I am being too sensitive. I'm not sure why everyone in my family has been begging to either drop by and look at the baby through a window or pursued me to try to stay with us the first couple weeks.

BESIDES the fact that we are in a pandemic??? Hello people? They do know the newborn isn't going to magically disappear right? It's honestly been super frustrating reminding my family I have 0 interest in seeing anyone the first couple weeks.


Ahhh OP but this is where you’re wrong. The “newborn” DOES disappear in the blink of an eye. They know this, and you do not.


I agree. The first 3 weeks are a magical time. I didn’t like having visitors either, but the babies are so new and tiny at that age that it is special to meet them then. If the visits are short, you might want to include people in this early time. Plus I had a baby in June when a lot was less clear about how COVID is transmitted and it was sad not to have my family meet my daughter early on.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to go out on a limb and say that boomers are just a super selfish generation. They basically want pics to brag to their friends about. I know my grandparents didn’t act like this when their grandchildren were born.

I had a set of relatives who came to “help”. Except help was just them holding the baby when it wasn’t crying. They handed the baby back to me 20x an hour and then complained about how long breastfeeding was. I just cried in the bedroom and nursed 20 hours a day like the baby wanted. I felt so alone. They said I needed formula and that babies shouldn’t nurse that much. When they left, I was finally allowed to nurse in peace in my family room with Dh and bond. I can’t tell you how good it was to hold a happy baby. It’s very depressing to never get to hold one and visitors get all the happy moments. If anyone deserves to hold a sweet content baby it’s mom.


You're sure they're all boomers? (55+) There are no excited aunt's, uncles, or friends?


No. Those people didn’t ask to come stay with us. If anything, they were sweet and brought us meals or asked to meet us for picnics/ whatever we wanted.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to go out on a limb and say that boomers are just a super selfish generation. They basically want pics to brag to their friends about. I know my grandparents didn’t act like this when their grandchildren were born.

I had a set of relatives who came to “help”. Except help was just them holding the baby when it wasn’t crying. They handed the baby back to me 20x an hour and then complained about how long breastfeeding was. I just cried in the bedroom and nursed 20 hours a day like the baby wanted. I felt so alone. They said I needed formula and that babies shouldn’t nurse that much. When they left, I was finally allowed to nurse in peace in my family room with Dh and bond. I can’t tell you how good it was to hold a happy baby. It’s very depressing to never get to hold one and visitors get all the happy moments. If anyone deserves to hold a sweet content baby it’s mom.


You're sure they're all boomers? (55+) There are no excited aunt's, uncles, or friends?


No. Those people didn’t ask to come stay with us. If anything, they were sweet and brought us meals or asked to meet us for picnics/ whatever we wanted.


I was referring to Pp who posted about boomers being selfish. Apparently she thinks OP will have a bunch off 55- 75 year olds beating down her door.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:30 weeks pregnant and been very irritable lately so let me if I am being too sensitive. I'm not sure why everyone in my family has been begging to either drop by and look at the baby through a window or pursued me to try to stay with us the first couple weeks.

BESIDES the fact that we are in a pandemic??? Hello people? They do know the newborn isn't going to magically disappear right? It's honestly been super frustrating reminding my family I have 0 interest in seeing anyone the first couple weeks.


Ahhh OP but this is where you’re wrong. The “newborn” DOES disappear in the blink of an eye. They know this, and you do not.


I agree. The first 3 weeks are a magical time. I didn’t like having visitors either, but the babies are so new and tiny at that age that it is special to meet them then. If the visits are short, you might want to include people in this early time. Plus I had a baby in June when a lot was less clear about how COVID is transmitted and it was sad not to have my family meet my daughter early on.


+1 the window to meet a new baby is small. It is gone in the blink of an eye. You won't even realize it at first. They do know that! Might be frustrating but they are just saying they love you and the baby.
Anonymous
IME experience is was all baby and Dads side. My family and friends sent me messages, sent me gifts and said whenever you are ready. I had an awful and long delivery and was struggling emotionally/mentally/physically. BUT I was rude because I didnt want DH's friends and parents to visit in the first 2 weeks. Not to mind that his parents had stalked outside for hours and had already seen their grandkid for 2 hours. Id been cut in half, breastfeeding was hard, and my DH was back to work at day 3 post.

Please respect peoples boundaries. Personally, I felt vulnerable and tired. 2 WEEKS (or even 4 weeks) doesn't make a difference with a baby but it can be a world of difference for a mom.
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