Anonymous wrote:
I guess I will just voice the other side. I assume these are young, twenty-somethings? I cheated on my now husband when we were daing was in our twenties. Still so young and so much to learn, about yourself and what you want in a relationship. Young men especially at that age are still just so immature. I think monogamy at that age is difficult. They're not married, so commmitment is different. I would not tolerate cheating in a marriage, but I really don't think young twenty-somethings should even be in monogamous relationships if they're not quite ready. If I were her, and loved him, I would probably talk about how he's feeling and see if maybe they both shouldn't just ease up the intensity of the relationship and explore seeing other people until they're both ready for a real commitment. I would not judge him, honestly. People make mistakes and they're not married.
This really sounds like you did not learn much from cheating - like, “they are young, no big deal.” Lots of 20 somethings are married. In OP’s case, they are in a committed relationship and he crossed the line. That’s really all that matters.
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