Women who pay alimony

[Anonymous]

I was a sahm for 11 years and trailing spouse. Ex travelled I gave up my career to raise out kids.

Ex peaced out after 14 years (he’s an alcoholic with suspected CTE) and earned $500k the year he split. I did not get alimony. I got a job and out earned his pathetic ass. His earnings will continue to trend down, but I don’t give a crap I have a job I had to pay him off - including his MBA debt which I had paid for- to the tune of $200,000. Best GD money I’ve ever spent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time a man is awarded alimony, an angel gets her wings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a sahm for 11 years and trailing spouse. Ex travelled I gave up my career to raise out kids.

Ex peaced out after 14 years (he’s an alcoholic with suspected CTE) and earned $500k the year he split. I did not get alimony. I got a job and out earned his pathetic ass. His earnings will continue to trend down, but I don’t give a crap I have a job I had to pay him off - including his MBA debt which I had paid for- to the tune of $200,000. Best GD money I’ve ever spent

You don't sound like a very happy or stable person.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who intentionally didn’t get a job just to get a higher alimony

[Anonymous]

It really depends on a person. I would think most of the self-respecting men out there will not be asking for alimony. MY DH has full custody, ex-wife quit working without consulting him, he only paid alimony voluntarily for a year. Depends on the judge as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen it (and think it is entirely appropriate) when one partner is a SAHP by mutual decision. If you both decided it would be best for the other parent to stay at home, and that person sacrificed their career development, then spousal support equal to the number of years out of the workforce seems appropriate, no matter the gender of the parent.

This is my view - and I'd be the one paying alimony under this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on a person. I would think most of the self-respecting men out there will not be asking for alimony. MY DH has full custody, ex-wife quit working without consulting him, he only paid alimony voluntarily for a year. Depends on the judge as well.

Why would a "self-respecting man" not desire alimony? Lots of sexism in this thread.

There should probably be a federal alimony quota to make things fair [1]: for every dollar women get in alimony, a dollar in alimony has to go to men.

[1] 99 percent of alimony in the US is paid by men to women.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my friend paid her useless alcoholic ex for several years. She says it was worth every Penny - he was a mean drunk who couldn’t hold down a job. She’s only sorry she didn’t do it sooner (trying to make it work for the kids). Now she’s loving her life and has an amazing boyfriend. The ex is still a drunk and still not working - found another woman to mooch off of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a sahm for 11 years and trailing spouse. Ex travelled I gave up my career to raise out kids.

Ex peaced out after 14 years (he’s an alcoholic with suspected CTE) and earned $500k the year he split. I did not get alimony. I got a job and out earned his pathetic ass. His earnings will continue to trend down, but I don’t give a crap I have a job I had to pay him off - including his MBA debt which I had paid for- to the tune of $200,000. Best GD money I’ve ever spent

You don't sound like a very happy or stable person.

She may not sound stable but I think she sounds pretty happy. Money can definitely buy happiness!