DH never lets me know he’s going to be late.

[Anonymous]

Same except we eat at 5:45. I just eat with the kids and he rolls in at 6:30 or whatever. We both live very close to work, but he gets to work late so he works later. My kids are 1 and 4 and I've worked to make dinner fun. We talk about things they did during the day, play "baby bird" with spaghetti (pretending it's worms that they hold their head back for), watch Disney sing alongs during dinner on the TV, etc.

I'm convinced it's his ADD. He works in a scif, so there's no contacting him and often his cell phone is off during the whole drive home too.

[Anonymous]

OP, he probably finds you too regimented in all aspects of life. Not his style. He's more free-flowing. This is his push back.

Imagine what you would do if you didn't have a husband. Serve dinner that way.

Btw, you don't get to decide things. You don't get to decide how things will be, not more than 50% of the time anyway. Even home-life issues.

[Anonymous]

I just decided to let it go. We eat at 5:30, I will wait till 6. Not home by 6 we eat w/o.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, he probably finds you too regimented in all aspects of life. Not his style. He's more free-flowing. This is his push back.

Imagine what you would do if you didn't have a husband. Serve dinner that way.

Btw, you don't get to decide things. You don't get to decide how things will be, not more than 50% of the time anyway. Even home-life issues.

I don’t get it. Why would you take a spouse and children who are excited to see you, who have prepared a nice meal for you, and are genuinely upset when you aren’t there to enjoy it with them, and try to push them to be more indifferent to your coming and going? Is whatever is going on at work really that important?