Any happily married couples have sex the day they met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always wondered if there were more couples like us.

DH and I (he was 36 and I was 28) met at a wedding and ended up talking all night. We made love as the sun rose. We were an immediate couple for a year before we got married and have been very happily married for nearly 14 years.

Anyone else like us?

My SIL tells this story with almost the same exact details... right down to the "making love as the sun rose".

When in reality, they were both shitfaced, they went back to our room because he was staying with us and were so sloppy drunk, we found a trail of their alcohol (like Gretel leaving breadcrumbs) from the ballroom directly to our hotel room. We walk in and they are both passed out naked & he's still on top of her -- when my husband tried to wake them up (gently, mind you) she got straight up belligerent and accidentally punched my BIL in the mouth, but was aiming for my DH, lol.

He never asked for her number, never called her, chalked it up to a one night stand. She invited herself to move in with a friend of hers who lived in the same town as us/him (they immediately regretted it) and basically stalked him until he broke down and went out with her.
That was it, he was done. She's a massive control freak and he's lazy, so it was easy to manipulate him. They seem miserable to everyone who sees them and have a kid.

Whenever anyone asks how they met, she launches into this ridiculous fantasy and leaves out every single detail of the truth.
I've never once brought up what truly happened, because I figured if she's making stuff up to make it sound better, she's probably embarrassed and I don't want that for her.

I just realized this the first time I've ever told anyone else about what happened that night, as it's not my story to tell.

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with sex on the first date -- if the chemistry is insatiable and you're really into each other, then go for it... be happy!

It's obvious by the number of people on here who have done it and have happy, successful, loving marriages, that maybe sex on the first date/first time seeing each other in person SHOULD be the norm and not something to be embarrassed or keep on the DL about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yep. met at a bar and went home with him. 10 years together so far, still very happy

+1. Except we were both married to other people. We both agreed to leave our spouses and are now married to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. met at a bar and went home with him. 10 years together so far, still very happy

+1. Except we were both married to other people. We both agreed to leave our spouses and are now married to each other.

Created not one, but two job openings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always wondered if there were more couples like us.

DH and I (he was 36 and I was 28) met at a wedding and ended up talking all night. We made love as the sun rose. We were an immediate couple for a year before we got married and have been very happily married for nearly 14 years.

Anyone else like us?

My SIL tells this story with almost the same exact details... right down to the "making love as the sun rose".

When in reality, they were both shitfaced, they went back to our room because he was staying with us and were so sloppy drunk, we found a trail of their alcohol (like Gretel leaving breadcrumbs) from the ballroom directly to our hotel room. We walk in and they are both passed out naked & he's still on top of her -- when my husband tried to wake them up (gently, mind you) she got straight up belligerent and accidentally punched my BIL in the mouth, but was aiming for my DH, lol.

He never asked for her number, never called her, chalked it up to a one night stand. She invited herself to move in with a friend of hers who lived in the same town as us/him (they immediately regretted it) and basically stalked him until he broke down and went out with her.
That was it, he was done. She's a massive control freak and he's lazy, so it was easy to manipulate him. They seem miserable to everyone who sees them and have a kid.

Whenever anyone asks how they met, she launches into this ridiculous fantasy and leaves out every single detail of the truth.
I've never once brought up what truly happened, because I figured if she's making stuff up to make it sound better, she's probably embarrassed and I don't want that for her.

I just realized this the first time I've ever told anyone else about what happened that night, as it's not my story to tell.

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with sex on the first date -- if the chemistry is insatiable and you're really into each other, then go for it... be happy!

It's obvious by the number of people on here who have done it and have happy, successful, loving marriages, that maybe sex on the first date/first time seeing each other in person SHOULD be the norm and not something to be embarrassed or keep on the DL about.

My only ONS was when I was the MOH at a friends wedding, drank too much and ended up having drunken sex with a groomsman. I guess we were trying to mimic the bride and groom but I hope it was better for them because I don't remember anything except waking up naked and thinking what an idiot I had been. I never saw him again and that was almost 30 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently had sex on a first date. I will keep you posted.LOL

I appreciate this response! And, congrats!

[Anonymous]

I know a couple that's been married for over 20 years who did. Two kids, house in burbs, etc. Happy. From all appearances.

[Anonymous]

I did. Was supposed to be a fling, as I was just in town for a couple of days. 14 years and 2 kids later, the fling continues...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always wondered if there were more couples like us.

DH and I (he was 36 and I was 28) met at a wedding and ended up talking all night. We made love as the sun rose. We were an immediate couple for a year before we got married and have been very happily married for nearly 14 years.

Anyone else like us?

My SIL tells this story with almost the same exact details... right down to the "making love as the sun rose".

When in reality, they were both shitfaced, they went back to our room because he was staying with us and were so sloppy drunk, we found a trail of their alcohol (like Gretel leaving breadcrumbs) from the ballroom directly to our hotel room. We walk in and they are both passed out naked & he's still on top of her -- when my husband tried to wake them up (gently, mind you) she got straight up belligerent and accidentally punched my BIL in the mouth, but was aiming for my DH, lol.

He never asked for her number, never called her, chalked it up to a one night stand. She invited herself to move in with a friend of hers who lived in the same town as us/him (they immediately regretted it) and basically stalked him until he broke down and went out with her.
That was it, he was done. She's a massive control freak and he's lazy, so it was easy to manipulate him. They seem miserable to everyone who sees them and have a kid.

Whenever anyone asks how they met, she launches into this ridiculous fantasy and leaves out every single detail of the truth.
I've never once brought up what truly happened, because I figured if she's making stuff up to make it sound better, she's probably embarrassed and I don't want that for her.

I just realized this the first time I've ever told anyone else about what happened that night, as it's not my story to tell.

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with sex on the first date -- if the chemistry is insatiable and you're really into each other, then go for it... be happy!

It's obvious by the number of people on here who have done it and have happy, successful, loving marriages, that maybe sex on the first date/first time seeing each other in person SHOULD be the norm and not something to be embarrassed or keep on the DL about.

OMG is this your SIL???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. met at a bar and went home with him. 10 years together so far, still very happy

+1. Except we were both married to other people. We both agreed to leave our spouses and are now married to each other.

How romantic

Good luck after he meets the next married him in a bar when he’s tired of you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yep. met at a bar and went home with him. 10 years together so far, still very happy

+1. Except we were both married to other people. We both agreed to leave our spouses and are now married to each other.

How romantic

Good luck after he meets the next married him in a bar when he’s tired of you...

*married ho

[Anonymous]

I should have but I did on our first date two years later. We had become very good friends and I really liked him so the only unknown was his bedroom skills. They were outstanding and they were again last night and its been 29 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a few couples like this. Of course the women have been judged harshly for having sex right away, but who cares if it worked out right?

This is weird to me...none of my friends, relatives, co workers have ever discussed when the first time they had sex w their spouse was so a) how do you know this info and b) how do so many other people know this info such that the women in the couples can be judged harshly?

NP here.

I’m guessing these are friends from college or sometime in their 20’s. My friends used to talk a lot about sex and one night stands when we were young and single. Of course, immediately after a one night stand you have no idea if you’re going to end up with that person so there’s no sense of privacy. You laugh and share stories with friends. I noticed that as we got into longer term relationships people stoped talking about sex. It was just weird to talk about that with friends if the guy was going to be hanging out at trivia night later — and especially as you got to know the boyfriends as friends. There wasn’t a hard age where it stopped, it was very gradual as relationships became more serious. Now that I’m married, I never talk about my sex life with friends beyond the most superficial things like “I’m really looking forward to a romantic weekend after Thanksgiving.” Or “It’s been awhile” Zero details.

However, if any of my college friends had a one night stand and then started dating the guy, I would have known that they had sex the first time they met.

[Anonymous]

The night we met in a disco 23 years and 9 months ago.

[Anonymous]

Yep! Bar hookup 21 years ago. Strong marriage and 2 wonderful children - but thankfully kids are not from the hookup
night!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The night we met in a disco 23 years and 9 months ago.

There were discos in 1997? Wtf?