Kids with parents with different last names

[Anonymous]

It keeps both names going. I see nothing wrong with it. My husband suggested we give our kids my name only.

[Anonymous]

I know a few families like this. One kid gets mom's last name, one kid gets dad's last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a few families like this. One kid gets mom's last name, one kid gets dad's last name.

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Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess no one is ever just curious about things. Op, I would be curious too.

Yeah, I'd be curious just because I'm interested in something that's different from most of the families I know (in which the woman keeps her name and the kids share the father's name) but I don't care in the least from a moral/judgment perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what situation would the older child and father have the same last name and the younger child and mom have the same last name?

The parents are married. I totally get the mom not having the same last name as the husband and kids. I kept my maiden name for years. I just thought it was odd when half the kids had the dad’s name and not the other child.

This family doesn’t appear like a blended family but I guess they could all be the same race and siblings just look really alike.

Are most blended families biracial?

Huh? A blended family just means that there are kids from previous relationships. It has nothing to do with race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what situation would the older child and father have the same last name and the younger child and mom have the same last name?

The parents are married. I totally get the mom not having the same last name as the husband and kids. I kept my maiden name for years. I just thought it was odd when half the kids had the dad’s name and not the other child.

This family doesn’t appear like a blended family but I guess they could all be the same race and siblings just look really alike.

Are most blended families biracial?

Huh? A blended family just means that there are kids from previous relationships. It has nothing to do with race.

That was the PP's point. Re-read what was bolded - that person made a weird comment that they didn't appear blended but they guess they could be blended and still all the same race - that's a strange comment. PP was highlighting the strangeness.

[Anonymous]

I have students who are full siblings with different last names. They are Hispanic and one kid has the mom's last name and the other kid has the dad's last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In what situation would the older child and father have the same last name and the younger child and mom have the same last name?

The parents are married. I totally get the mom not having the same last name as the husband and kids. I kept my maiden name for years. I just thought it was odd when half the kids had the dad’s name and not the other child.

This family doesn’t appear like a blended family but I guess they could all be the same race and siblings just look really alike.

I'm one of those parents that gave one child my maiden name, which I kept, and another my husband's last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what situation would the older child and father have the same last name and the younger child and mom have the same last name?

The parents are married. I totally get the mom not having the same last name as the husband and kids. I kept my maiden name for years. I just thought it was odd when half the kids had the dad’s name and not the other child.

This family doesn’t appear like a blended family but I guess they could all be the same race and siblings just look really alike.

Are most blended families biracial?

Oh yes, remember the Brady Bunch.

[Anonymous]

I know a family like this, in this exact order too. The boy has the dad's last name and the girl has the mom's. Then they had another boy with the dad's last name-- I assume had he been a girl, he would have had the mom's name. There's no indication it's cultural. What do I think? I think it's unusual and kinda neat. The only reason I didn't give my kid my last name (though she has it on her birth certificate as her second middle) is that I'm white, her dad is not, and it was important to us that she have pride in being [his ethnicity]. I kept my name. As did my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess no one is ever just curious about things. Op, I would be curious too.

Op here. I was just curious. And we know plenty of divorced and blended families. I’m very well aware kids can have different fathers. I just thought this situation was a little odd because siblings look the same as in they look totally like full siblings.

There was an Asian family with all 4 family members with different last names. Also seem like a non blended family. I would never ask in real life. That’s why I asked on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know you're allowed to give a child the mother's last name. And siblings (even full siblings) aren't required to share a last name. In fact, no one is required to share a last name! The parents and siblings could all have different names.

OP, I'm assuming the parents wanted both of their names to continue into the next generation. Or they wanted to be equally represented in their kids. So that's what they did. (PS - I know twins that have this feature...one with each of the parents' last names.)

OP there's no reason for you to be so baffled. Or even so interested.

dp I think it is ok to be curious when people do things differently! I would guess blended family.

[Anonymous]

It's a bit odd. But my DH and I have different last names and the kids have his name, it's never been a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a bit odd. But my DH and I have different last names and the kids have his name, it's never been a problem.

This is common, not odd at all. Lots of women keep their maiden name and don’t change their last names.