He has an AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given that OP can’t even write basic English sentences, there’s no way that she’s a high earner from NYC.

My vote is Russian troll.

Being high earner from NYC and Russian or another not native English speaker are not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Op here.
I’m not a troll but yes English is my second language.
There are other entities in nyc not just Wall Street.
I type fast on iPhone so lots of typos on top of weird English.
I only wanted advice / references regarding PI.
I did google and you get a ton of results - I thought someone can narrow it down for me.
Plus talking here helps emotionally. I don’t go to therapists or friends...
and yes - I can’t stand him - I can’t stand his lies. Imagine over 10 years living in a lie.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone — nice people and the opposite.
It’s ok. I’ll figure it out.
Discussion closed

[Anonymous]

... grand central tunnels to Madison Ave- will miss you even as it was CRAZY!

[Anonymous]

... or almost Madison Ave.

Metro north train instead of subway.

The robbery attempts near prospect park and then I moved. Detective Six whose card I still have.

You were rough nyc but not as brutal as what this pig did.

[Anonymous]

Time square craziness every single day if you want for lunch...
Stupid Vamoose to see him! How stupid I was

[Anonymous]

Oh I forgot to say I did not do searches here before posting - should have done that to avoid the wave of irrelevant comments...
Again - thanks all

[Anonymous]

wow...that was beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a small (but vocal) minority of cheated-upon wives who had an active sex life in their marriage.

But going by the numbers, the overwhelmingly large majority of male cheating is in a case of sexless/low sex marriage. OP did not mention her fabulous sex life (and still hasn't weighed in) so the safe assumption this is yet another sexless-marriage-husband-has-AP posting.

Please do cite these "numbers" with which you're so familiar, PP. We'd all love to see the statistics and studies to which you're referring.

We'll wait!

I suspect your numbers come from that long-established institute, the Society of Men Who Are Never At Fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.
I’m not a troll but yes English is my second language.
There are other entities in nyc not just Wall Street.
I type fast on iPhone so lots of typos on top of weird English.
I only wanted advice / references regarding PI.
I did google and you get a ton of results - I thought someone can narrow it down for me.
Plus talking here helps emotionally. I don’t go to therapists or friends...
and yes - I can’t stand him - I can’t stand his lies. Imagine over 10 years living in a lie.

OP, wish you well. It might be beneficial to establish his cheating to move things along and not worry about alimony if it applies to you.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a small (but vocal) minority of cheated-upon wives who had an active sex life in their marriage.

But going by the numbers, the overwhelmingly large majority of male cheating is in a case of sexless/low sex marriage. OP did not mention her fabulous sex life (and still hasn't weighed in) so the safe assumption this is yet another sexless-marriage-husband-has-AP posting.

Don’t dismiss these women’s experiences. You’re beginning to sound misogynistic. No real data to prove what you say and so we should believe what you say but not what women say. Nope.

+1. So tired of men who know women’s sex lives better than they know their own. It’s just another version of mansplaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a small (but vocal) minority of cheated-upon wives who had an active sex life in their marriage.

But going by the numbers, the overwhelmingly large majority of male cheating is in a case of sexless/low sex marriage. OP did not mention her fabulous sex life (and still hasn't weighed in) so the safe assumption this is yet another sexless-marriage-husband-has-AP posting.

Please do cite these "numbers" with which you're so familiar, PP. We'd all love to see the statistics and studies to which you're referring.

We'll wait!

I suspect your numbers come from that long-established institute, the Society of Men Who Are Never At Fault.

Google for "percent of married men who cheat" Answer: 22%
Google for "sexless marriage percent" Answer: 20%
Both groups are the exact same men, with but a handful of exceptions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me guess: you never want sex with him.. and you aren't yet divorced. That can only mean **of course** he has an AP! That is the one thing that has been holding together your marriage. Why is this suddenly an issue?

Stop, @sshole. You have zero idea. Plenty of good marriages have sex and these abusuve @sahiles still have entitlement affairs. It’s devestating. They do it when you have a dying parent in the hospital. Plenty of monsters masquerading as decent people out there. And the whores they cheat with are no better. Sneaking around like rats.

+1

This guy gets on every cheating thread and starts ranting about sexless marriages. My ex cheated when our sex life was good and when it was bad. He just cheated all the time, because he's a narcissistic d!ck.

+1. My ex cheated on me. I literally never said no to sex with him. We were having sex 3+x a week while he was emailing his AP about how his relationship with me was broken. When I found out he begged me to stay with him.

Cheating is not about sex just like rape is not about sex.

I could not express this any better. My husband was constantly leaving me 'love' post-it notes and planning surprise dinners and trips and giving me massages. Huge blowout surprise parties. He was incredibly helpful with my family when there was an ill parent or nephew, etc., very caring. We always had a great sex life 3+ times per week 20+ years in.

Yet he went behind my back all of this time with a married woman from the Internet (same sad story many on here have). No way to reconcile that man with the man at home. This is the hardest part to accept. What's real? He claims he compartmentalized and drank just to be with her and it was an escape. He was dissatisfied with himself and the big dreams he had. This was a very successful guy in every conceivable way--so it's mind boggling. He needed some middle-aged SAHM cheating woman to take his mind off of his internal issues.

You’re divorced?

[Anonymous]

OP, I used these people:

http://www.legalinv.com/

Expensive (I think I paid around $6,000) but they caught my ex-wife red-handed (or ... giving him a handy ... or whatever and then some) and it was money well spent to screw her out of the alimony she thought she was going to collect while carrying on that relationship. He dumped her too. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a small (but vocal) minority of cheated-upon wives who had an active sex life in their marriage.

But going by the numbers, the overwhelmingly large majority of male cheating is in a case of sexless/low sex marriage. OP did not mention her fabulous sex life (and still hasn't weighed in) so the safe assumption this is yet another sexless-marriage-husband-has-AP posting.

Whatever. Not happy in the marriage? Grow a pair, leave and divorce.