Do you gossip about other kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but one of my lifelong friends has a child with very clear undiagnosed autism and I've vented to my two other closest friends that it absolutely breaks my heart they haven't gotten him evaluated.

(I work in Early Intervention)

Ugh, I have one of these in my friend circle too. It breaks my heart. Their ped was even pushing for speech therapy as early as 2 and they just shake it off like he is fine. I don’t think it helps that their friends have kids older and younger (and he isn’t in daycare for peer comparison) so the parents literally have no benchmark. So sad. We hope he gets help later and has time to catch up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but one of my lifelong friends has a child with very clear undiagnosed autism and I've vented to my two other closest friends that it absolutely breaks my heart they haven't gotten him evaluated.

(I work in Early Intervention)

Ugh, I have one of these in my friend circle too. It breaks my heart. Their ped was even pushing for speech therapy as early as 2 and they just shake it off like he is fine. I don’t think it helps that their friends have kids older and younger (and he isn’t in daycare for peer comparison) so the parents literally have no benchmark. So sad. We hope he gets help later and has time to catch up.

Have you said anything to your friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but one of my lifelong friends has a child with very clear undiagnosed autism and I've vented to my two other closest friends that it absolutely breaks my heart they haven't gotten him evaluated.

(I work in Early Intervention)

Maybe they are and aren't telling you as they know you gossip. I didn't tell anyone about when we were in services because of people like you gossiping and making things really uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but one of my lifelong friends has a child with very clear undiagnosed autism and I've vented to my two other closest friends that it absolutely breaks my heart they haven't gotten him evaluated.

(I work in Early Intervention)

Maybe they are and aren't telling you as they know you gossip. I didn't tell anyone about when we were in services because of people like you gossiping and making things really uncomfortable.

That’s such a weird attitude.

When I was in Infants and toddlers for speech I told other mom friends. Many of them ended confiding that they also had concerns about their child. I think it can feel scary to start that process if you’ve never been exposed to it. Talking about it helped others make the call and get started with an evaluation. Two years later, all but one are still using services. Early intervention works. That time would have been infinitely more stressful without help, there’s no shame in acknowledging that.