Angry. Petty plan, and I don't care.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. It's going to seem scary, but please dump him. Now. There is no way you should tolerate this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with you and he flirts with your male friends, he’s not bi, he’s gay. You’re his beard while he works out his denial.

Exactly.

Yup. I thought this when you said you have to beg for sex. I hadn't even gotten to the "bisexual" (yeah right) part yet.

I'm currently divorcing my husband because he fessed up to having oral sex with anonymous men for years. When I described his lack of affection for me on dcum, people said he's either got aspergers or he's gay. And yet I was STILL blindsided. Don't be me.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be a better use of your time, to break up with him, attend therapy to work out why you allowed this situation to continue for 3 years, and hen find a man who actually wants to be with you, and not using you while he works out his own sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, I'm tired and missed the flirting with male friends entirely.

Yes, he's attracted to you and never will be. Because he's homosexual.

Escape rapidly and take stock of yourself before making the same mistake with the next gay man.

[Anonymous]

OP you should dump him. It will hurt and you will feel like you wasted a lot of time on him, but the longer you stay the more time wasted. There’s a lot of info prance about bisexuality on this thread. Bi means you are sexually attracted to men and women. It is not a prelude or cover up for being gay, and it does not prohibit one from being faithful to their partner. You should dump him not because he’s bi, but because he’s not ready to get married and you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you should dump him. It will hurt and you will feel like you wasted a lot of time on him, but the longer you stay the more time wasted. There’s a lot of info prance about bisexuality on this thread. Bi means you are sexually attracted to men and women. It is not a prelude or cover up for being gay, and it does not prohibit one from being faithful to their partner. You should dump him not because he’s bi, but because he’s not ready to get married and you are.

You can't deny it's often a stepping stone to coming to terms with being homosexual. People are skeptical because he does not act attracted to her.

[Anonymous]

You need to calm down. You sound really desperate. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Do not move in with any man until you are engaged.

He’s probably gay.

He sounds awful.

Cut your losses. Dump him. Move on

[Anonymous]

He’s not going to care and won’t be hurt. Maybe his ego for a bit but that’s it.

This place just wastes more of your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm angry. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and I have been expressing a desire for increased commitment (living together) and marriage for a long time. We're in our mid 30s, so this doesn't seem unreasonable. He always agrees and says he wants it too, but when it comes down to planning and getting serious, he bails.
We've discussed moving in together many times and have set a few dates. When it gets time to start looking for a place together, he says he's not ready for X, Y, or Z.
A few months ago, we discussed getting engaged this fall. We were both in agreement that it would be a good time to do it so he would have time to buy a ring, plan a proposal, etc. I asked many, many times if he was okay with this. He always assured me he was. Last week, I brought up something to do with the engagement, and he said he'd changed his mind. He said he wanted to get engaged, but he didn't think doing it in the fall was the right time. He thought it was too soon, and we still had some issues to work on.

I am at my wit's end. I have stayed with him through so much unnecessary crap. I have to beg for sex. I have to beg for commitment. He isn't romantic. He has a bad temper and is cruel when he's upset. He is still in contact with his ex-wife, even though I've explicitly asked him not to be. I've watched him flirt with my MALE friends at parties (he's bisexual). There's so much more, and I don't even want to type it all out at this point. The tl;dr is that he hasn't been a stellar partner, and I have always been patient, loving, and forgiving.


So, I am done, but I am angry as hell for putting up with so much crap for so long and incessantly being dragged along. What I'm going to do is be syrupy sweet, continue the course, and not rock the boat. I will not complain. I will not argue. I will not discuss the future. I will be nothing but pleasant and easy. I want him to want to marry me. I want him to propose to me. And when he does, I will laugh in his face and tell him to get lost. I want to hurt him the way he's hurt me so many times. He deserves it. He cane end up alone like he's destined to.

Uh huh. Don’t get caught up in the fairy tale and say yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That might be the dumbest plan ever.

x a million

[Anonymous]

You’re already begging for sexy hen don’t get married. Get out. Run, don’t walk. Sounds asexual. Not bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm angry. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and I have been expressing a desire for increased commitment (living together) and marriage for a long time. We're in our mid 30s, so this doesn't seem unreasonable. He always agrees and says he wants it too, but when it comes down to planning and getting serious, he bails.
We've discussed moving in together many times and have set a few dates. When it gets time to start looking for a place together, he says he's not ready for X, Y, or Z.
A few months ago, we discussed getting engaged this fall. We were both in agreement that it would be a good time to do it so he would have time to buy a ring, plan a proposal, etc. I asked many, many times if he was okay with this. He always assured me he was. Last week, I brought up something to do with the engagement, and he said he'd changed his mind. He said he wanted to get engaged, but he didn't think doing it in the fall was the right time. He thought it was too soon, and we still had some issues to work on.

I am at my wit's end. I have stayed with him through so much unnecessary crap. I have to beg for sex. I have to beg for commitment. He isn't romantic. He has a bad temper and is cruel when he's upset. He is still in contact with his ex-wife, even though I've explicitly asked him not to be. I've watched him flirt with my MALE friends at parties (he's bisexual). There's so much more, and I don't even want to type it all out at this point. The tl;dr is that he hasn't been a stellar partner, and I have always been patient, loving, and forgiving.


So, I am done, but I am angry as hell for putting up with so much crap for so long and incessantly being dragged along. What I'm going to do is be syrupy sweet, continue the course, and not rock the boat. I will not complain. I will not argue. I will not discuss the future. I will be nothing but pleasant and easy. I want him to want to marry me. I want him to propose to me. And when he does, I will laugh in his face and tell him to get lost. I want to hurt him the way he's hurt me so many times. He deserves it. He cane end up alone like he's destined to.

And then everyone in the restaurant will clap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But just end the drama and get out. You deserve better. He may never want to marry you.

This. He’s gay and doesn’t want to get married. Find someone who loves you.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to marry him

1) you have to beg him for sex
2) he doesn't want to commit to you
3) he has a bad temper
4) he flirts with men
5) he's still in contact with his ex after you told him it hurt you


Why aren't you breaking up with him?