Sex on the first date...

[Anonymous]

My husband and I had sex on the first date. And we didn’t know each other before that. Together over 5 years and happy

[Anonymous]

"Does he really love me for who I am, or does he just want more sex"? You'll only find the answer to the question, by proceeding and see what happens. These things are hard to predict.

[Anonymous]

This is like half of my happily married, still having sex friends 10+ years in. "The one night stand that never went away." You'll see how it develops, but don't let some harpies make you feel like this is a no-go and you need to hold out or something. I swear all the sexless people griping here played by those "rules." For me it was date 3, ripped that bandaid off and it's been a fantastic 10 years.

[Anonymous]

It’s ok, just see how it plays out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is like half of my happily married, still having sex friends 10+ years in. "The one night stand that never went away." You'll see how it develops, but don't let some harpies make you feel like this is a no-go and you need to hold out or something. I swear all the sexless people griping here played by those "rules." For me it was date 3, ripped that bandaid off and it's been a fantastic 10 years.

+1 It’s fine. See how the relationship develops. I wouldn’t take advice from the sexless people of DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:He wants more sex... that’s why he’s reaching out.

Yes of course. And so does she. That is how good relationships work. You both want to get together.

Not all good relationships but it can play out that way. I had sex with my DH on our first date in 1985 and we celebrated our 33rd anniversary yesterday. Enjoy OP. True chemistry is a great thing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I went out last night with a guy I really like. We met through friends and hit it off. It was a first date and I slept with him. I’m a little nervous that I ruined my chances at a good thing. He seems interested with texting me If I want to get together again tonight, but I’m worried he sees me now as just sex. I don’t sleep around but it’s been a very long time and it just felt right. I did drink some wine ( not enough to get me drunk) but I really wanted to. The sex was very good and very dirty. I don’t know if I should just let things play out or talk with I’m tonight about wanting something serious again? We both said we are looking for relationship at dinner last night.

And you have one, all about sex.

It could evolve from that

[Anonymous]

Married to a man that I slept with on the first date. It was so good then, and it still is 13 years later.

[Anonymous]

We had sex on our first date but we had been very good friends for a few years. The only thing we didn’t know about each other was each other’s bedroom skills.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t have a lot of serious BF’s before I met my DH but I don’t recall having sex with them until pretty well along in the relationship. On the first date with my husband for some crazy reason I wanted to but it didn’t happen because of the situation. So for our second date I invited him to my place for dinner and we ended up having a very late dinner. I was very worried that he might think I was easy so I told him about my history.

[Anonymous]

It’s just best to play it out. You’ll know pretty quickly if it’s just a booty call or something more than that. I’m a believer it waiting awhile but others have had first time success.

[Anonymous]

I had sex with my DH within 2 hours of knowing him. That was 12 years ago and we are happily married and in love. Our sex life is wonderful and we are still that playful couple. We make jokes about it all the time. We actually had to come up with a cute story to cover the “how did you meet” questions. We still smile at each other when we tell people the lie that we made up. It’s not about how you met, tbh. Just see how it plays out. However, you do need to be clear that you are not looking to be just a fwb type thing if you sincerely aren’t looking for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I had sex on the first date. If he's the type of guy that categorizes women by how quickly they "put out", do you really want to pursue something with him?

You're obviously ok with having sex on the first date with someone you want to be serious with, you should be seeking someone who shares similar values. If he now envisions you as only good for "hooking up", he doesn't share your values and is not the right guy for you (at least outside of sex). No real loss.

Completely agree.

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[Anonymous]

I had sex right away with my husband, and we’ve been married for 15 years. You will find out quickly if he just wants ex.