Men being ruder to you when they have a crush on you

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Anonymous wrote:Immature. Run away.

+1 this is like middle school boy behavior. If a grown man is doing this, he's immature, and you want to run far away.

Thinking the same thing. Run away.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never heard from men that they get flustered by attractive women and then are rude to them. They may be left speechless and that may seem rude. You can be sure that women can be very rude to attractive women out of jealousy.

+1 For every man who is rude to an attractive woman there are likely ten women who are rude to an attractive woman.

What does this have to do with OP's question?

The question was about men being flustered and rude to attractive women. Many women are rude to attractive women.

Correct. So nothing then?

NP. Correct. Has absolutely nothing to do with the price of tea in Columbia Heights.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a thing I've heard from men, that attractive women make them flustered and sometimes they act ruder when a woman is attractive. I wonder if there's some resentment at play with some (dysfunctional) men wherein they get angry at a woman they perceive would have rejected them, and thus decide to act uncivilly towards her.

Anyone have any experiences with this?

I did have an experience once with it, it was when my self-esteem was low and what certainly attracted us to each other, and yes it is abusive. It is an insecure power play and a first step to co-dependency to continue in a relationship like this. Run.

BTW, Melania’s marriage comes to mind.

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Those are boys, not men. Real men do not do this. I’ve had teasing but never being rude. That is not a man you want. You want a respectful man who knows how to treat a woman.

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Flustered and shy around someone you are attracted to is very different to being rude in my opinion.

Do not engage with the rude ones.

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I’m a guy and my inclination is to be super nice to attractive women. But who knows, maybe they find that boring. 🤔

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never heard from men that they get flustered by attractive women and then are rude to them. They may be left speechless and that may seem rude. You can be sure that women can be very rude to attractive women out of jealousy.

+1 For every man who is rude to an attractive woman there are likely ten women who are rude to an attractive woman.

What does this have to do with OP's question?

The question was about men being flustered and rude to attractive women. Many women are rude to attractive women.

Correct. So nothing then?

No, women are rude to attractive women more than men.

And your assertion relates to the thread how?

It’s about rudeness to an attractive woman. Both men and women can be guilty.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a thing I've heard from men, that attractive women make them flustered and sometimes they act ruder when a woman is attractive. I wonder if there's some resentment at play with some (dysfunctional) men wherein they get angry at a woman they perceive would have rejected them, and thus decide to act uncivilly towards her.

Anyone have any experiences with this?

i don't know about this. I think men are generally really sweet and sometimes flustered around beautiful women, but not rude like this. fwiw, and i know no one on DCUm believes anything like this, I think i may have been beautiful in my twenties (told by several men that i was the most beautiful women they have ever seen, scouted by a modeling agent on the street) and men have always been really nice to me. maybe there is some teasing behavior? but not rudeness.

I would agree with this as well.

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I am a guy and I am nicer to more attractive people (men and women actually). It's not that I expect or want something to happen with them it's just that more attractive people are more pleasing on the eyes so there's a bias per se that the experience itself is more pleasant for me which makes me nicer.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a thing I've heard from men, that attractive women make them flustered and sometimes they act ruder when a woman is attractive. I wonder if there's some resentment at play with some (dysfunctional) men wherein they get angry at a woman they perceive would have rejected them, and thus decide to act uncivilly towards her.

Anyone have any experiences with this?

Have you watched men discuss AOC?!?!

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Anonymous wrote:This is a thing I've heard from men, that attractive women make them flustered and sometimes they act ruder when a woman is attractive. I wonder if there's some resentment at play with some (dysfunctional) men wherein they get angry at a woman they perceive would have rejected them, and thus decide to act uncivilly towards her.

Anyone have any experiences with this?

Have you watched men discuss AOC?!?!

The only metric by which AOC is attractive is as compared to all the old people in congress.

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Not to blow my own horn but I'm very attractive and I've never had any man be rude to me because of it. It's mostly the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:Not to blow my own horn but I'm very attractive and I've never had any man be rude to me because of it. It's mostly the opposite.

Yep. I once got in a fender bender that was completely mine fault. We exchanged information (for claims purposes) and he called me later to make sure I was alright still and that my husband wasn’t upset with me. I thought that was a bit odd but he never called again or made a claim. He was just being overly nice.

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Anonymous wrote:That would be remarkably immature. I’ve never observed such behavior.

I had a FWB who started doing this shit under the guise of "teasing." What he was doing was falling for me, but using this as a defense mechanism. I see you, sir! NO!

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It’s always about them and their insecurities. The way man treats a woman is not a measure of her attractiveness.