Working Moms...sick of being passed over for gay co-workers???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They should get promoted over you b/c bottom line, if a work situation comes up and your kid needs you, you'll choose your kid. As a supervisor, I wouldn't pick you either. You want the perks (title, prestige and money) but don't want to put in the commitment because little joey has a cold or little susie has a play tonight.

I vote for this one as most inane comment. Also, thank god I don't work for you, although I suspect nobody actually does.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to take some time and educate yourself about these people you've just lumped together as privileged and unfairly advantaged.

Gay men are MORE likely to be unemployed than their straight counterparts and earn, on average, 10% less.
Lesbians earn less than straight women.
Over one million same-sex couples in the United States are raising children.
None of them are doing so with the benefit of Social Security Survivors' benefits (though they pay for them equally), Family and Medical Leave Act protections, tax-free employer-provided health benefits, COBRA coverage for their spouses and partners.
In most states, including Virginia, it is illegal to fire someone for their sexual orientation and gender identity.
That gay man who "took" your promotioin? If he wants to get married and put his husband on the company health insurance, he'll pay taxes on that. You won't.
If he meets his soulmate at a conference and that person is Canadian, he can't sponsor him to immigrate so that they can live here in the U.S. as a family.
If he marries someone here in DC and they get in a car crash on their trip to Costco, there's no telling whether he'll get to be at his husband's hospital bedside in VA.

People have these ridiculous misconceptions about all gay men being these chic, urban, well-off people but that's a stereotype.

Employers often treat mothers like shit but I assure you that it's not because of the gays.

Wake up and grow up.

[Anonymous]

9:50 again. I meant that it is LEGAL to fire someone in most states.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to sidestep the perceived bigotry and diatribes...

OP: if you feel that others are being promoted for equal work b/c they are doing it in the office while you are doing it at home, it is time to make sure that your telework is recognized.

While you are working at home, do you make a point of corresponding with coworkers, particularly your boss? Emails have time stamps, and it can be a subtle (or not so subtle) cue that you are putting in the additional time. As you leave for the day, comment on what you will be working on after dinner (thanks for the input/data/whatever, I'll incorporate it into the report and do the finishing touches tonight).

It is a bit of a game, but in offices that value face time, you have to figure out a viable alternative. But if your boss stays late and has casual strategy sessions with coworkers while you are giving Junior a bath, you are going to miss out; that's the price you pay for your flexibility and hours.

And be honest with yourself as to whether you are accomplishing as much and at the same quality. Can you be relied upon for the crises and big projects?

[Anonymous]

I accomplished and cared more about those accomplishments in my career WAY more than I do now that I have kids. New perspective on things.

[Anonymous]

Did these gay men work harder than you? If so, then they deserved to be promoted. Sure maybe the fact that they had no kids (like many straight single men and women, by the way) was a factor in WHY they were able to work as hard, but the fact is they did. I'm a working mom of two, and, while I make a pretty good salary, most of my colleagues make more than I do. I'm fine with that. I get to go home at a reasonable hour, never work weekends, and enjoy my life and family. It's worth it to me, and I would never expect to be compensated or promoted at the same rate as my colleagues who are working their asses off. I think you can't see the forest for the gays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick, someone call Fox News! We've got a new conspiracy on our hands!!

First it was the illegals. Now it's "The Gays" who are taking our jobs. Where will it end?!!?!!

O noes! The Gays are better dressed too. Sucks to be straight and have a vagina!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quick, someone call Fox News! We've got a new conspiracy on our hands!!

First it was the illegals. Now it's "The Gays" who are taking our jobs. Where will it end?!!?!!

O noes! The Gays are better dressed too. Sucks to be straight and have a vagina!

Beware: the illegal gays are waiting in the wings to really f-- this sh-- up.

Don't say that you weren't warned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they are not only better at their jobs than you, but also more fabulous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh! My boss is a gay man! And here I thought he was promoted to a supervisory position because he works harder than me, has been here longer, and is really knowledgeable in our field. But now that I realize I've been discriminated against, I'm PISSED!!

I KNOW! But I was on the other side. I promoted a gay man thinking he was the best at his job because -- well you know. I TOTALLY fell for it. Not only that, but I was led to believe that the data center he managed would look -- i dunno -- more stylish? . But it totally didn't. It just looked like a bunch of servers with the same old blinking lights and whirring fans and cables. Letdown!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is specifically saying gay men because there is a very minimal (although not at all impossible) chance of them having children due to...well you why.

I had a boss who told me straight out - that he looked for gay men to hire - because the odds of them having a "family" were slim. I was in charge of recruiting for him - I lived in complete terror of lawsuits (I always reccomended the most qualified person).

[Anonymous]

I think that we're overlooking the insidious presence of lesbians in the work force. They'll golf with upper management. They are assets to the company softball team. When the school nurse calls to tell them that little Dylan or Eva is sick, there's is a solid chance that their spouse would actually be willing to pick DylanEva up that day. For a male boss, imagining their sex life could potentially be hot.

Ladies, we need to wise up and organize a folk festival way at an abandoned missile range, way out west then pen them in and create a reservation, complete with musty bookstores and a Subaru dealership.

There's no time to waste.

[Anonymous]

OP, your post is not petty, its is vindictive, bigotted .. should I go on. You are not being passed over in favor of "gay co-workers" you are being passed over in favor of persons who are willing to commit more time to the job than you. Yes, working from home is nice, but sometimes you just have to be there. Welcome of the world of being a parent and all the tough choice that come with. I also work full time and I know that I am well regarded and I know that I can get promoted if I wanted to, but I don't because I want to leave at 6pm every day so that I can be with my children - you need to come to terms with your choices instead of blaming people who have difference lifestyles than you.

Gosh, sometimes I have to wonder what year I am living in.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an ass, OP. Sorry but you do. No wonder you're not getting promoted.

[Anonymous]

12:36 you made my day. Don't forget the REI outlet on your rez!