Sick of dating men

[Anonymous]

Where is everyone in this forum. So quiet. Boring AF.

[Anonymous]

Confusing, chaotic dating scene out here.

Lucky are the married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confusing, chaotic dating scene out here.

Lucky are the married.

Hang in there. This will pass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

+1

Do you like cats, drive a Subaru, and listen to the Indigo girls?

No no no! We are dog people. Cats are for older straight single women.

[Anonymous]

Bisexual here. It's harder with women, believe me. It sounds appealing, sure, but the reality is you may both have PMS at the same time. And you know how when you're out to dinner and you duck into a restroom at some point to touch up your makeup and just get a break from the date... well, when you are out with a woman she comes right in there with you. And somehow I always seem to date women who expect me to do all of the driving and they even want me to open the car door for them. And I am very femme!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bisexual here. It's harder with women, believe me. It sounds appealing, sure, but the reality is you may both have PMS at the same time. And you know how when you're out to dinner and you duck into a restroom at some point to touch up your makeup and just get a break from the date... well, when you are out with a woman she comes right in there with you. And somehow I always seem to date women who expect me to do all of the driving and they even want me to open the car door for them. And I am very femme!

This is kind of what I experienced. A lot of moods, a lot of long conversation going around in circles. I’m very femme but have a direct personality and end up being the more dominant. I plan, I drive, I tend to initiate things more across the board. In my experience bi women don’t make moves which can be exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

I know this is probably a joke, but I am a man and have always been attracted to smart, fit, funny lesbians. I've also been attracted to quite a few women who identified as straight but later changed teams or at least decided they were bisexual.

My attraction to lesbians has never led to anything romantic, but once once I had a lesbian friend who was obviously attracted to me too. Her girlfriend (later her wife) got really angry and wouldn't let her hang out with me anymore.

This makes me wonder how often lesbians decide to start dating men? I know two.

So curious what attracts you to smart, fit, funny lesbians (vs. smart, fit, funny straight women), if you can articulate. Since coming out and living openly as a lesbian, my relationship dynamic with men has changed, and I think it’s mutual. I work in a male-dominated field and the change has come as a relief.

I think I perceive women somewhat differently from the way most straight men do. I have never liked makeup, hair dye, plastic surgery, etc. I almost always prefer natural looking women. I also often get a little uncomfortable and sometimes even nervous when women flirt or act in a very feminine, manipulative way. I like women who just talk with me, say smart things, and appreciate my saying smart things.

I think what you are experiencing at work is related but a little different. The guys are probably treating you as one of the guys. That's great but that's not what I'm talking about. I've had lesbian friends like that, too, but they weren't necessarily the ones who interested me sexually.

I've also noticed that when I write on the various DCUM boards about issues that have nothing to do with my sex, people who respond or comment on my posts usually refer to me as "she."

ever consider dating a man ...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should try. I did in my early 30s and it cleared a lot of confusion. Although I am very sexually attracted to women, I did not enjoy the relationships I had with them. I still fantasize, but it’s purely sexual. I am married and monogamous to a man and consider myself a straight female.

Interesting. What did you not like about the relationships, and why do you attribute it to gender?