Sick of dating men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

I know this is probably a joke, but I am a man and have always been attracted to smart, fit, funny lesbians. I've also been attracted to quite a few women who identified as straight but later changed teams or at least decided they were bisexual.

My attraction to lesbians has never led to anything romantic, but once once I had a lesbian friend who was obviously attracted to me too. Her girlfriend (later her wife) got really angry and wouldn't let her hang out with me anymore.

This makes me wonder how often lesbians decide to start dating men? I know two.

So curious what attracts you to smart, fit, funny lesbians (vs. smart, fit, funny straight women), if you can articulate. Since coming out and living openly as a lesbian, my relationship dynamic with men has changed, and I think it’s mutual. I work in a male-dominated field and the change has come as a relief.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, give it a go. What’s not to like? Women know how to please other women, and they are FAR better kissers for sure. I made the switch a while ago and never looked back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

I know this is probably a joke, but I am a man and have always been attracted to smart, fit, funny lesbians. I've also been attracted to quite a few women who identified as straight but later changed teams or at least decided they were bisexual.

My attraction to lesbians has never led to anything romantic, but once once I had a lesbian friend who was obviously attracted to me too. Her girlfriend (later her wife) got really angry and wouldn't let her hang out with me anymore.

This makes me wonder how often lesbians decide to start dating men? I know two.

So curious what attracts you to smart, fit, funny lesbians (vs. smart, fit, funny straight women), if you can articulate. Since coming out and living openly as a lesbian, my relationship dynamic with men has changed, and I think it’s mutual. I work in a male-dominated field and the change has come as a relief.

I think I perceive women somewhat differently from the way most straight men do. I have never liked makeup, hair dye, plastic surgery, etc. I almost always prefer natural looking women. I also often get a little uncomfortable and sometimes even nervous when women flirt or act in a very feminine, manipulative way. I like women who just talk with me, say smart things, and appreciate my saying smart things.

I think what you are experiencing at work is related but a little different. The guys are probably treating you as one of the guys. That's great but that's not what I'm talking about. I've had lesbian friends like that, too, but they weren't necessarily the ones who interested me sexually.

I've also noticed that when I write on the various DCUM boards about issues that have nothing to do with my sex, people who respond or comment on my posts usually refer to me as "she."

[Anonymous]

Welcome to the club! Lots of lesbians and bisexual women can identify with what you said. We are happy to have you

[Anonymous]

What are you giving by trying it? 30 seconds of actual intercourse? Women are much better in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you giving by trying it? 30 seconds of actual intercourse? Women are much better in bed.

Bi guy here. In general, gay/bi men are better in bed than straight/bi women. Though it depends on the individual and the mutual chemistry.

[Anonymous]

I would say try it, but dating may be challenging. I have a friend in a similar situation and the reality is women experimenting with women later in life are not a hot commodity among lesbian or queer women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

+1

Do you like cats, drive a Subaru, and listen to the Indigo girls?

[Anonymous]

I think you should try. I did in my early 30s and it cleared a lot of confusion. Although I am very sexually attracted to women, I did not enjoy the relationships I had with them. I still fantasize, but it’s purely sexual. I am married and monogamous to a man and consider myself a straight female.

[Anonymous]

45 and divorced and I totally get this. Also single, also generally disgusted with men. Appreciate how together most women are, We tend to be so much more active, and engaged, go getters w great hobbies and communities.

But damn I get hot for a big tall handsome man.

I dont think I'm curious enough to go the actively seeking out a relationship with a woman route (like trying to date online) but I could totally picture myself falling in love with a woman.. Kathryn Budig and Kate Fagans relationship is one I follow and frankly envy. Glennon and Abby, too. I've had some three somes in the past, so I know I am attracted to women, plenty, though I've always identified as straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

+1

Do you like cats, drive a Subaru, and listen to the Indigo girls?

Lol ... straight woman here, married 15 years to a guy. But I have 2 cats, drive an Outback (my third Subaru), and was just listening to Indigo Girls last night. Saw them in concert twice when I was younger. Maybe I’m a lesbian stuck in a straight woman’s body?

[Anonymous]

Hm. Im the PP two above. I kicked out my husband cut all my hair off and bought a Subaru SUV. I love the indigo girls, but I have a dog and don't really care for cats.

Maybe I really am bisexual, LOL

[Anonymous]

I hear you. No one would blame you. Give it a try, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lesbian trapped in a mans body

I know this is probably a joke, but I am a man and have always been attracted to smart, fit, funny lesbians. I've also been attracted to quite a few women who identified as straight but later changed teams or at least decided they were bisexual.

My attraction to lesbians has never led to anything romantic, but once once I had a lesbian friend who was obviously attracted to me too. Her girlfriend (later her wife) got really angry and wouldn't let her hang out with me anymore.

This makes me wonder how often lesbians decide to start dating men? I know two.

So curious what attracts you to smart, fit, funny lesbians (vs. smart, fit, funny straight women), if you can articulate. Since coming out and living openly as a lesbian, my relationship dynamic with men has changed, and I think it’s mutual. I work in a male-dominated field and the change has come as a relief.

I think I perceive women somewhat differently from the way most straight men do. I have never liked makeup, hair dye, plastic surgery, etc. I almost always prefer natural looking women. I also often get a little uncomfortable and sometimes even nervous when women flirt or act in a very feminine, manipulative way. I like women who just talk with me, say smart things, and appreciate my saying smart things.

I think what you are experiencing at work is related but a little different. The guys are probably treating you as one of the guys. That's great but that's not what I'm talking about. I've had lesbian friends like that, too, but they weren't necessarily the ones who interested me sexually.

I've also noticed that when I write on the various DCUM boards about issues that have nothing to do with my sex, people who respond or comment on my posts usually refer to me as "she."

Guy here... are you sure you aren’t attracted to both lesbians and men? The way you described the lesbians you are attracted to could also describe men. I am asking because I am a guy married to a woman who I love, but now at 40 I find myself curious about what an encounter with a guy would be like. Have no desire to leave my wife and/or marry one, it’s more just pent up sexual tension then needs to be released and while I have never done it, I imagine it would be intense and emotion/drama free. Is that weird?