Please STOP!!! - Thread for Those Upset About Independent School Decisions

[Anonymous]

OP, where did you go to college? One of the things the schools look at is the kids legacy status

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pp here. We did NOT apply for financial aid.

In fact that may have helped you. Elite schools want diversity, but it's a middle-class sort of diversity. They don't want you bringing that lower-income vibe to mix with their upper crusty kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I read the different threads and posts I am becoming very annoyed that people in this area are so petty!!!

Yes my DC is from Maryland and yes we applied for Financial Aid and yes we are African - American and yes we did get into a Top 3 Tier 1 District of Columbia Private School (which is how many of you would describe the school).

No we do not have any connections and no our DC did not attend a feeder pre-school.

Is my child less worthy than yours? Should my child not have been offered this opportunity because we live in Maryland and we are African American and Applied for Financial Aid???

My child and other children of color, children of gay and lesbian couples, children from various religious and cultural backgrounds, and children of families who do not make 500,000 a year deserve every option your children deserve.

I am not a drug addict nor is my husband and my DC just like many of yours is nice child. So please stop making me and I am sure some other parents feel as if we have stole something from you Our children just like yours are entitled to the best this area has to offer.

PLEASE STOP - Some of the comments being made are very offensive and not called for.

You seem to be saying that we all think your child is LESS deserving that ours to get into the best schools in the area. I don't think anybody has said that. The debate over affirmative action is whether some kids are MORE deserving because of their history or background. I'm for affirmative action myself. But starting this argument by saying that everybody else is dissing your kid is a sure way to get flamed!

[Anonymous]

15:54 hit the nail on the head.

OP, you may be a nice person in real life. I don't know. But the way you write certainly would seem to suggest that you are one of those whining, seeing racism behind every slight, AA that thankfully, are not found at my Top 2 school. In a word, it's for the best you did not get in. You sound like you would not have fit in, and caused more problems for yourself and the school in the process.

[Anonymous]

OP -

I certainly see your point. You have one. Keep in mind, though, your child will be in school with these children and you will be dealing with their families (and they with you). Its time to take a deep breath.

Good luck to you and yours.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure if anyone has noticed this thread was started in Spring 2008 so why are we still dealing with this. Independent schools accept who they want and I am positive OP and DC are doing just fine at the school they were accepted to. Let's allow this to rest until decisions are made again in early March. Then we can debate who was and was not accepted and the reasons for Admissions decisions.

Just a thought . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure if anyone has noticed this thread was started in Spring 2008 so why are we still dealing with this. Independent schools accept who they want and I am positive OP and DC are doing just fine at the school they were accepted to. Let's allow this to rest until decisions are made again in early March. Then we can debate who was and was not accepted and the reasons for Admissions decisions.

Just a thought . . .

Uhhh. Because on this day before Thanksgiving, there are still many bored, sex-starved, status obsessed, and just generally frustrated DCUMs out there with apparently nothing better to do but vent and post?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15:54 hit the nail on the head.

OP, you may be a nice person in real life. I don't know. But the way you write certainly would seem to suggest that you are one of those whining, seeing racism behind every slight, AA that thankfully, are not found at my Top 2 school. In a word, it's for the best you did not get in. You sound like you would not have fit in, and caused more problems for yourself and the school in the process.

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"Top 2"? "Top 3" isn't silly enough? And BTW, OP's child DID get in. In fact s/he may be one of your child's classmates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh. Because on this day before Thanksgiving, there are still many bored, sex-starved, status obsessed, and just generally frustrated DCUMs out there with apparently nothing better to do but vent and post?!?!

Y'know, I'm trying - very hard - to picture this forum as a panacea for sex-starved, status obsessed desperate housewives, but I just can't see it. (Especially the sex-starved part: it just doesn't make sense to me.) I'm laughing though.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh. Because on this day before Thanksgiving, there are still many bored, sex-starved, status obsessed, and just generally frustrated DCUMs out there with apparently nothing better to do but vent and post?!?!

Y'know, I'm trying - very hard - to picture this forum as a panacea for sex-starved, status obsessed desperate housewives, but I just can't see it. (Especially the sex-starved part: it just doesn't make sense to me.) I'm laughing though.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Well, even a quick look around here, and you'll see it, both blatant (when the gals try to joke about it), therapeutic (when the gals try to get counseled about it), and subtle.

Glad you're laughing, and presumably not part of the sex starved part. I can only say that the only part of me starved right now is my stomach - back to the turkey. . . .

[Anonymous]

Personnally, I don't think children from any background "deserve" to go to top private schools. They deserve a good education, but that can be found in many schools, including public schools, especially in Maryland. It is very nice to be able to send your child to a top school, but it is not an inalienable right. I guess this reveals my thoughts on financial aid as well ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personnally, I don't think children from any background "deserve" to go to top private schools. They deserve a good education, but that can be found in many schools, including public schools, especially in Maryland. It is very nice to be able to send your child to a top school, but it is not an inalienable right. I guess this reveals my thoughts on financial aid as well ...

You're a JERK : ) I guess that reveals my thoughts on you.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that was an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, that was an overreaction.

After reading the post again your are correct it was an overreaction. I guess I am having a very bad no good horrible day. Please accept my apology. I must say for the record I do agree that all children deserve a great education however I do not agree with your thoughts about financial aid. Have a great day ladies : )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:to op i am sorry your feelings are hurt. i think the way people think is b/c most of us are white applying for these schools and since the schools say they want diversity and a diverse candidate gets in i guess people put a reason on it. i know it makes you feel badly, but you need to prepare your child that this is how the world thinks whether you like it or not. i would start NOW instilling in your child that it doesn't matter what people think and that they need to know who they are inside b/c they are entering a different world at these big 3 schools. i am white and not diverse by looks but consider myself quite diverse from most of my wealthy friends at my private exclusive school (where i was on scholarship). people would ask"where do you summer?" my answer "at home" told it all unbelievable, as they all summered at the most pristine places in the country. i did feel out of place and it took a LONG time for me to find myself at that school. i wish someone had prepared me a little better. your child will be fine and don't worry about what other people say. honestly, i don't think they mean it in a nasty way, i think they are just thinking out loud and trying to figure out why certain people got in and others did not. who knows? anyway, this whole thing brings out the worst in people as people get very protective when it comes to their kids! (me included)! anyway, i think when you have 20 kids picked out of who knows? 200-300 applications people are trying to figure out some sort of reasoning in all of the chaos. i have no doubt your child is bright and deserves to be in her school.

Where or if you "summer" doesn't mean a rat's a$$ as children get older. Especially boys. Sure they can go to Europe and do soccer camp. But guys who actually get game time in OTHER sports usually DO NOT vacation big.