If you are 55+, do you ever think of people you dated in your 20s?

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Anonymous wrote:I had a college girlfriend who was very pretty with an amazing body who I did think about from time to time. But that ended when I ran into her at our 30th reunion and she had really let herself go. No way did I recognize her except for her name tag. My wife was with me and she enjoyed saying “aren’t you glad......!”. My wife is still very hot at 50 so that was an easy answer.

I guess the primary attribute you find most important in a woman is her body shape. Boy, isn't your wife lucky!

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Yes. Out of curiosity I looked up a couple of guys and found out they had passed away. Neither ever married.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a college girlfriend who was very pretty with an amazing body who I did think about from time to time. But that ended when I ran into her at our 30th reunion and she had really let herself go. No way did I recognize her except for her name tag. My wife was with me and she enjoyed saying “aren’t you glad......!”. My wife is still very hot at 50 so that was an easy answer.

I guess the primary attribute you find most important in a woman is her body shape. Boy, isn't your wife lucky!

LOL -give the guy a break! He’s probably been married 20-25 years which means there are other attributes she has going for her. Being hot is not a bad thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a college girlfriend who was very pretty with an amazing body who I did think about from time to time. But that ended when I ran into her at our 30th reunion and she had really let herself go. No way did I recognize her except for her name tag. My wife was with me and she enjoyed saying “aren’t you glad......!”. My wife is still very hot at 50 so that was an easy answer.

I guess the primary attribute you find most important in a woman is her body shape. Boy, isn't your wife lucky!

Not PP you’re quoting, but I think many of us learn that the ones that looked great without having to do much when they’re young don’t age the same sometimes as the ones who learned how to look nice by taking care of themselves and continued doing it. Sure, there’s more that matter than looks but it’s silly to completely discount looks

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Anonymous wrote:This is reminding me of how my brother was voted sexiest boy in his senior class (he was gorgeous) and I was voted 3rd weirdest girl in my senior class. My brother became disabled and died of alcoholism and COPD at the age of 61.

I’m very sorry about your brother. But I love “third weirdest”...I’d wear that as a badge of pride!

Thanks! Yeah, I learned that not being hot in high school feels awful at the time but as you grow older you start to care more about feeling comfortable with who you are and not how others see you. Nerds rule!

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Yes. And I really regret being in a serious relationship from 24 - 35. If I had bailed earlier I would have had a very different life.

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Who?

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Yes. I'm even FB friends with one of them.

Not an ounce of wistfulness for any of them, though, even the nice ones.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm even FB friends with one of them.

Not an ounce of wistfulness for any of them, though, even the nice ones.

Part of that is probably because you have no idea of what they are like today as people.

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Anonymous wrote:If I brought them all together for one night they could never match my sweet imagination.

Everything looks worse in black and white!

An old flame reconnected via email. We had left our relationship without closure and there was a lot of chemistry. The email connection was quite flirty and there was a lot of shared laughter because you have so much common history at college. It was fun to become the person that you were when you were young and single. It was flattering and while DH was a bit miffed about it (because I tell him everything) I continued chatting, flirting etc.

For some reason I had not googled this person before but when I was contacted, I did. Wow! Accomplishments of a 1%er. Great life, wonderful family etc. I found out that this person had reached the heights of success in his field. He also used to be quite good looking so we exchanged pictures. I was shocked - he had turned into Mr. Burns from Simpsons. OMFG. I was like oh no no no no! I went and told DH and he was ROFL. I had to spend a weekend in bed with DH to exorcise the image from my mind. Thankfully, it was a normal face pic...not a dick pic.

BTW - I am quite a stylish and good looking 50+ woman...even if I am not mistaken for a 25 year old. We all have aged. Some into wine and some into ACV.. but this was the crypt keeper. All the flirtiness evaporated in an instance.

Lmao. I’m dying. Hahahahah.

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I do but certainly not with any regrets in terms of not staying with them. They were all nice guys but I married a gem.

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I think about lots of things on a regular basis - old dating partners, old jobs, cities where I used to live, etc. Out of the three most serious, two are divorced and one has been married for many years with adult children. The two of us were each other's first real bf/gf so a lot connects us and we are in contact every few years to catch up.Funny thing is, they used to say I was the guy who would probably never get married and I have been with my wife for over 30 years. But people change.

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Sadly the few that I am still aware of are either divorced, widowed or dead. They were all very nice and deserved better.

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I did this more in the early days of the internet, when it was so amazing that you could find out so much online. Once I had caught up with where they were in life from my minor stalking I haven’t thought much about them since...except for my college boyfriend, whom I still have regrets about not marrying.

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Anonymous wrote:Sure. I’m still friends with some of them. On the flip side I was just thinking about one former fling yesterday, not fondly, and could only remember his first name.

Ha. This has happened to me, too. There was a guy I went out with on multiple occasions (got in his car, went to his place, he came to mine) and saw him at parties. I have no clue what his last name was.

I dated a ton back then but this guy was memorable and it is weird that I have zero memory of ever knowing his last name. I may not have ever asked, lol.