If you are 55+, do you ever think of people you dated in your 20s?

[Anonymous]

Sure. I’m still friends with some of them. On the flip side I was just thinking about one former fling yesterday, not fondly, and could only remember his first name.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think about one guy frequently.

[Anonymous]

If I brought them all together for one night they could never match my sweet imagination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I brought them all together for one night they could never match my sweet imagination.

Everything looks worse in black and white!

An old flame reconnected via email. We had left our relationship without closure and there was a lot of chemistry. The email connection was quite flirty and there was a lot of shared laughter because you have so much common history at college. It was fun to become the person that you were when you were young and single. It was flattering and while DH was a bit miffed about it (because I tell him everything) I continued chatting, flirting etc.

For some reason I had not googled this person before but when I was contacted, I did. Wow! Accomplishments of a 1%er. Great life, wonderful family etc. I found out that this person had reached the heights of success in his field. He also used to be quite good looking so we exchanged pictures. I was shocked - he had turned into Mr. Burns from Simpsons. OMFG. I was like oh no no no no! I went and told DH and he was ROFL. I had to spend a weekend in bed with DH to exorcise the image from my mind. Thankfully, it was a normal face pic...not a dick pic.

BTW - I am quite a stylish and good looking 50+ woman...even if I am not mistaken for a 25 year old. We all have aged. Some into wine and some into ACV.. but this was the crypt keeper. All the flirtiness evaporated in an instance.

[Anonymous]

I think about those from my 20s with nostalgia but certainly not regret.

My bad-boy high school sweetheart (and into college years) turned out to be a full-time conspiracy theorist who hasn't worked a steady job his entire life and has been sponging off women the entire time. His good looks have faded and now he is a broke, surly, overweight nut job who I would avoid at all costs.

There are a few men I dated in my 30s who I do think about. I am grateful for the time I spent with them but am happy to leave them as fond memories and nothing more.

You can't step in the same river twice. It's never the same.

[Anonymous]

Dear LORD, I still talk to them! LOL

[Anonymous]

I do. I periodically google my serious college boyfriend (2 years) that I did not marry. He makes about $6M a year now. He looks mostly the same. But I am glad I married my husband instead. Going on 32 years now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I brought them all together for one night they could never match my sweet imagination.

Everything looks worse in black and white!

An old flame reconnected via email. We had left our relationship without closure and there was a lot of chemistry. The email connection was quite flirty and there was a lot of shared laughter because you have so much common history at college. It was fun to become the person that you were when you were young and single. It was flattering and while DH was a bit miffed about it (because I tell him everything) I continued chatting, flirting etc.

For some reason I had not googled this person before but when I was contacted, I did. Wow! Accomplishments of a 1%er. Great life, wonderful family etc. I found out that this person had reached the heights of success in his field. He also used to be quite good looking so we exchanged pictures. I was shocked - he had turned into Mr. Burns from Simpsons. OMFG. I was like oh no no no no! I went and told DH and he was ROFL. I had to spend a weekend in bed with DH to exorcise the image from my mind. Thankfully, it was a normal face pic...not a dick pic.

BTW - I am quite a stylish and good looking 50+ woman...even if I am not mistaken for a 25 year old. We all have aged. Some into wine and some into ACV.. but this was the crypt keeper. All the flirtiness evaporated in an instance.

You are my new favorite person!

[Anonymous]

This is reminding me of how my brother was voted sexiest boy in his senior class (he was gorgeous) and I was voted 3rd weirdest girl in my senior class. My brother became disabled and died of alcoholism and COPD at the age of 61.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Not in s longing way - but they were part of my youth, which I look back on fondly and sometimes with wonder.
Also, as my kids get older I reflect on my own experiences in their stage of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is reminding me of how my brother was voted sexiest boy in his senior class (he was gorgeous) and I was voted 3rd weirdest girl in my senior class. My brother became disabled and died of alcoholism and COPD at the age of 61.

I’m very sorry about your brother. But I love “third weirdest”...I’d wear that as a badge of pride!

[Anonymous]

I had a college girlfriend who was very pretty with an amazing body who I did think about from time to time. But that ended when I ran into her at our 30th reunion and she had really let herself go. No way did I recognize her except for her name tag. My wife was with me and she enjoyed saying “aren’t you glad......!”. My wife is still very hot at 50 so that was an easy answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do. I periodically google my serious college boyfriend (2 years) that I did not marry. He makes about $6M a year now. He looks mostly the same. But I am glad I married my husband instead. Going on 32 years now.

His salary is online?

[Anonymous]

I do but not in a wishful way. My husband has far exceeded whatever expectations I might have ever had. My early 20's BF's have never really amounted to anything.

[Anonymous]

All the time! I married him.