friend making choices not aligned with my values - how to let it not poison our relationship?

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Anonymous wrote:This post was ridiculously stupid. Clearly we all would like to know what you disagree with her on.

ITA. Nobody can give you any real advice until we know what the issue is.

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In my opinion if you really can’t understand how and why a different political opinion might validly exist (yes even if you disagree with it) then you need to become better educated about history and psychology.

You sound self-righteous, OP. I recommend getting over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion if you really can’t understand how and why a different political opinion might validly exist (yes even if you disagree with it) then you need to become better educated about history and psychology.

You sound self-righteous, OP. I recommend getting over yourself.

You need to get over yourself.

A person can fully understand why a political opinion exists and still want nothing to do with because it goes against your personal morals.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my opinion if you really can’t understand how and why a different political opinion might validly exist (yes even if you disagree with it) then you need to become better educated about history and psychology.

You sound self-righteous, OP. I recommend getting over yourself.

You need to get over yourself.

A person can fully understand why a political opinion exists and still want nothing to do with because it goes against your personal morals.

If the person in question is not a veritable sociopath than I really disagree. Most likely cause of pig-headedness and moral righteousness is by far deep ignorance.

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OP back again. I completely understand if it's too vague to answer for some of you, but I actually have gotten some value out of several of the responses, so I do appreciate it. To be clear, it's not a political values difference, though that is a similar example. I can truly see both sides of our value systems and that's what makes this difficult.

I am definitely fairly morally righteous though and always have been - I suspect that's what's causing the issue here. So maybe, to take the advice of a previous poster, I should learn and think more about why our lifestyle differences occur. That's a good idea, thank you.

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You outgrew her, OP. It happens all the time. Please accept it.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to find your line, OP. Is it something you can tolerate and just keep your mouth shut on, or even agree to disagree?

I've distanced myself from a friend who is a VIRULENT antivaxxer - I just can't with her "I've done my research, look at this YouTube video!" "vaccinated kids should be isolated because they're vaccine-shedding and they are the reason for the recent measles outbreaks" nonsense. I just can't stay silent and for that reason I have stopped seeing her altogether for the time being.

This is my opinion as well. I truly think there will be fewer anti-vaxxers in about a year with this virus!

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Has anyone been in this kind of situation before?

Any democrat who has a family member or friend who is a Trumpster finds themselves in this position constantly. If you want to stay in the relationship, you ignore what you can and you call them out on misinformation and egregious behavior. Otherwise, you end the relationship.

Yup. Exactly.

One comment to add here: each time you call them out on misinformation, explain WHY the misinformation was created. The president lies because he wants to cover up his incompetence and continue to steal tax dollars. McConnell and the senators lie because their corporate donors want judges who will decide for corporations. Fox lies because Murdoch wants votes for tax cuts for him.