I’m always dissatisfied

[Anonymous]

Me too. I have to remind myself to be grateful for all the truly wonderful things I have. It’s hard and when I’m in a bad mood I spiral into negativity. One thing I am never negative about is DH. He’s amazing and all I have to do is ask him to pull me out of negativity and he does.

[Anonymous]

Psychologist here. CBT is great and very effective, but should be time limited (to the PP who said they've been doing it for 5 years..). ACT short for Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a newer type of CBT that has shown a bit more promise specifically in people with generalized anxiety. One of the main tenants is focusing on building a life that is meaningful to you based on *your* values and committing to that life even when your own thoughts/feelings/behaviors derail you.

[Anonymous]

I bet you have no friends. All of your problem are of your own making

[Anonymous]

Is it partly cultural, OP? My Jewish family is like this.

[Anonymous]

You ought to travel to slums in India, or somewhere where people are poor and dying. It might be a wake-up call as to how good you have it. If it is depression, you need to treat it. Once, In Africa, I watched a mom carrying her baby while going down the alley to prostitute herself to some sleaze guy. Maybe she thought she was lucky as she will eat that night if he doesn't kill her first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You ought to travel to slums in India, or somewhere where people are poor and dying. It might be a wake-up call as to how good you have it. If it is depression, you need to treat it. Once, In Africa, I watched a mom carrying her baby while going down the alley to prostitute herself to some sleaze guy. Maybe she thought she was lucky as she will eat that night if he doesn't kill her first?

OP already feels bad for feeling bad. Now you want her to feel bad for feeling bad about feeling bad?

Is that helpful? As I say to my kids, are you helping or hindering? (Usually when I say this, they're not helping.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Psychologist here. CBT is great and very effective, but should be time limited (to the PP who said they've been doing it for 5 years..). ACT short for Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a newer type of CBT that has shown a bit more promise specifically in people with generalized anxiety. One of the main tenants is focusing on building a life that is meaningful to you based on *your* values and committing to that life even when your own thoughts/feelings/behaviors derail you.

Another clinical psychologist here, and I cosign all of this. I've also encountered people who say they've been doing CBT for 5 years, but CBT specialists typically limit it to 6 months of weekly sessions, give or a take a couple of months. I know a few experts who've seen kids or adults closer to a year.

[Anonymous]

You say you've been in therapy for a long time, but have you tried antidepressants? If therapy isn't working, it might be worth a try -- especially during perimenopause.

[Anonymous]

This must be terribly frustrating. You are such a good Mom though to not want to pass it on to your child. Please get help. Here is a number that has great resources and can help you find the help you need. (855 382 5433) I am praying for you. There is hope and there is a better way. God bless you. Also praying for your family and your new home.