What do you call this behavior?

[Anonymous]

Gaslighting. My ex did it for 15 years.

[Anonymous]

It’s DARVO —deny, argue, reverse victim and attacker.

Gaslighting is making people think they are crazy. As an example, moving your personal belongings and denying moving them. It involves making someone else believe that their concept of reality is false, often by questioning their memories of events.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Darvo! Op, run from this man.

[Anonymous]

Read about darvo: https://medium.com/the-ascent/one-way-to-disarm-gaslighters-understand-darvo-8e0aeb184f7

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s called gaslighting. What’s your plan regarding this guy now that you know all this about him?

No, this is NOT gaslighting. “Gaslighting” comes from the movie “Gaslight” where the husband worked to make his wife think she was going crazy. For example, she would put a piece of jewelry in her purse. When she wasn’t looking, he would take it out. Then when she went to look for it and couldn’t find it, she would get upset, knowing she had put it in there. He would just sit there and tell her that maybe she needed some more rest and that she seemed overwhelmed because she was forgetting things.

Yeah gaslighting is about making the other person think they are crazy - twisting reality.

This. And it is horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read about darvo: https://medium.com/the-ascent/one-way-to-disarm-gaslighters-understand-darvo-8e0aeb184f7

This is the dynamic in my family of origin. Explains a lot of things.

Thanks to the poster above who mentioned this term DARVO.