Wedding 9 months away, but fears of not conceiving already in mind...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband to be does not share these fears, but I can't seem to shake them. We've been sexually active for 5 years now, 2 on the pill, but 3 without any birth control method. It just boggles my mind that with us having been so careless for those 3 years I still never had any missed days or real reasons to take a pregnancy test. I'm in my mid twenties, fairly good health, I don't get it. My real fear is that once we do start trying to conceive, it won't happen eithier. Maybe this is all just wedding jitters...

I am also on my mid twenties,DS is almost 7 years old and I've beeing having umprotect sex for about 2 1/2 years after stop using birth control pills.
Don't worry! Your "umprotect sex life" has nothing to do with infertility.
Good luck to you on your wedding day and a life full of kids!!!

Not to be alarmist, but just because you've had one child does not mean that infertility can't/won't happen. I hope that's not the case for the OP or you. But diseases like endo can crop up silently, and while sufferers may have been quite fertile at one point, as the disease progresses, fertility can sharply decline. And you don't have to have pain to have endo (in fact, stage IV sufferers often don't have painful periods).

You know what?LETS THINK POSITIVELY! No worries here.
Yes I a a mom of one,but I am not worry about having a hard time having the second one.Please,let send positive messages to people in this forum ok?
THANK'S.
*I am finding myself TRYING to help the OP,and than you came and try to mess everything up.Oh my!

How is anything you've said concretely helpful to the OP?

I am not trying to be helpful for everybody who reads this post,but for the OP.Did anyone here asked you for any kind of comments?
I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be mean,but your nagative comments were NOT necessary.

Not the PP but this is silly. The OP wasn't asking to have her hand held, she was asking if there is cause for concern given her long time period of unprotected sex. The answer? Yes, it is a red flag. Doesn't mean that she or her man have a problem but given that lots of problems get worse over time, they should figure it out now. No one was being negative, only helpful.

[Anonymous]

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Not trying to be mean,but your nagative comments were NOT necessary.

Not the PP but this is silly. The OP wasn't asking to have her hand held, she was asking if there is cause for concern given her long time period of unprotected sex. The answer? Yes, it is a red flag. Doesn't mean that she or her man have a problem but given that lots of problems get worse over time, they should figure it out now. No one was being negative, only helpful.

PP here- I give up on this Post.I have better posts to read on dcurban!
Again,good luck to the OP.

[Anonymous]

OP -- If I were you, once I got married (or whenever you are ready to start trying in earnest), I would see an RE. I started trying at 31 and thought I'd have no problems b/c of my age. Three failed IVF later, I have discovered I seem to have the eggs of a 40 year old. Hopefully you'll have an easier problem to solve... Good luck!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Not trying to be mean,but your nagative comments were NOT necessary.

Not the PP but this is silly. The OP wasn't asking to have her hand held, she was asking if there is cause for concern given her long time period of unprotected sex. The answer? Yes, it is a red flag. Doesn't mean that she or her man have a problem but given that lots of problems get worse over time, they should figure it out now. No one was being negative, only helpful.

PP here- I give up on this Post.I have better posts to read on dcurban!
Again,good luck to the OP.

Glad to see you go. OP clearly has concerns. The majority of the people on here are trying to help her, not deliver to her some platitudes. You are incredibly insensitive to that poster who had problems conceiving. She was not nasty in the least with OP, just urging her to get help if the OP thought she might have a problem. Why are rude people like you on this forum? Please do leave the rest of us alone. I really hope OP has no problems (and it's just a matter of never hitting her fertility window). But if she does, at least these other women are giving her some ideas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Not trying to be mean,but your nagative comments were NOT necessary.

Not the PP but this is silly. The OP wasn't asking to have her hand held, she was asking if there is cause for concern given her long time period of unprotected sex. The answer? Yes, it is a red flag. Doesn't mean that she or her man have a problem but given that lots of problems get worse over time, they should figure it out now. No one was being negative, only helpful.

PP here- I give up on this Post.I have better posts to read on dcurban!
Again,good luck to the OP.

Glad to see you go. OP clearly has concerns. The majority of the people on here are trying to help her, not deliver to her some platitudes. You are incredibly insensitive to that poster who had problems conceiving. She was not nasty in the least with OP, just urging her to get help if the OP thought she might have a problem. Why are rude people like you on this forum? Please do leave the rest of us alone. I really hope OP has no problems (and it's just a matter of never hitting her fertility window). But if she does, at least these other women are giving her some ideas.