Why does a man tolerate a cheating wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a doctor couple who sound like this. Apparently she doesn't give out to the doctor at all, in other words, she's not a "cheating hot nympho". She's just a cheating ho-bag. And apparently she doesn't even give out any candy whatsoever to her husband, he stays with her and her cheating ass. How can all you clever wits explain that?

Either they are a DADT marriage (meaning he too has sidepiece).
Or, he's one of the 1% population low libido men who don't care about sex.

[Anonymous]

But: why would a man even with low libido tolerate having a wife who cheats around and is just using you for your money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a doctor couple who sound like this. Apparently she doesn't give out to the doctor at all, in other words, she's not a "cheating hot nympho". She's just a cheating ho-bag. And apparently she doesn't even give out any candy whatsoever to her husband, he stays with her and her cheating ass. How can all you clever wits explain that?

I hope that you're at least cute because you sure as hell are not bright

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

It’s UNLESS. UN. LESS.

How are you an English speaking adult with an internet connection who can’t spell “unless”[/quote

NP but chill the F out. Many people are typing on phones and things autocorrect. You were able to discern what the person was saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But: why would a man even with low libido tolerate having a wife who cheats around and is just using you for your money?

Maybe she makes a good meat loaf, and is worth keeping around.
If sex isn't important to you, then you do not care who your spouse is having sex with.
Props to him for not being a massive hypocrite (like the DCUM sexless wives brigade).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

This isn't at all true in NOVA. If you want 50/50 you'll get it.

Is this really true? How do you know?

1. Consulted several divorce lawyers, who all said this
2. Wanted and got 50/50 myself

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s lost interest in sex and gave her permission?

Maybe he doesn’t want to have to pay her support.

Maybe he has someone else on the side.

Maybe he doesn’t know or accept it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t. Would ask for an open marriage or serve divorce papers. Too much self respect to put up this this and I could easily find someone else who would fit all of the boxes DW does.

[Anonymous]

he's got no lead in the pencil. his soldier can't salute. his love pump is empty. vlad the impaler is stuck in the mud. the one-eyed milkman has no milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

It’s UNLESS. UN. LESS.

How are you an English speaking adult with an internet connection who can’t spell “unless”

Meh, nobody's perfect, you are a human connected to other humans and you have zero
empathy. See, it is possible. Like that.

[Anonymous]

Finances, arm candy/social status, and/or fear of being alone. Sometimes you get someone who is emotionally dependent/codep or one of them is psychologically manipulative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

It’s UNLESS. UN. LESS.

How are you an English speaking adult with an internet connection who can’t spell “unless”

No, sexually he’s ‘in less’ so this is correct

[Anonymous]

As opposed to what? Shooting her? Putting a chastity belt on her? What do you mean by "tolerate"?

[Anonymous]

Why does a man tolerate a cheating wife

I would assume because he chooses to. The reasons behind each individual man’s decision may vary but ultimately it’s his choice. Nobody’s putting a gun to his head and forcing him to tolerate anything so it must be a personal decision.

[Anonymous]

I have two friends whose wives are fairly openly cheating. One is miserable, he is trapped, they don't have enough money to split without moving out of the school district and couldn't afford two decent size houses. He's trapped.

The other is "cheating" too. I put that in quotes because they have a sort of DADT and he doesn't care where she gets it because he gets it too.

I could definitely make an open relationship work and offered one to my wife. Our sex life is cold, it's no way to live, and if her getting it from elsewhere means I do too, it's a win-win from my view.

You never know what goes on in other's marriages.