Don’t love our new nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

I was a SAHM who went back to work when my youngest was still a toddler. I picked daycare because of my years at the parks watching PP's "great" nannies. I had a choice, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

I'll add that I liked having extra sets of eyes, preferred not to have someone in my house, wanted continuity and definitely preferred daycare for when the kids got older, and didn't believe even a good nanny would provide the array of activities and stimulation, again more of a factor once you are past the infant stage.

You’ll never convince daycare parents that there was a better option for their child.

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

It is no different than a nanny share in the other house except the home day care should be licensed and monitored and a nanny is not.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

It is no different than a nanny share in the other house except the home day care should be licensed and monitored and a nanny is not.

You have internet access to see your in-home daycare? That is rare. Nannies in 2019 are generally always monitored.

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That unfortunately seems to be an uprising trend.

Not because child abuse statistics have risen.

It is because cameras have been more affordable and let’s face it....
Many people like the power of being able to watch another person, completely w/out knowledge.

I find it voyueristic as well as super creepy, but most people these days find it riveting.
Especially that the recordings can be zoomed in.
And screen shot.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

That's a pretty harsh thing to say about daycare. We used daycare for years and my kids often bonded with (and years later, still mention) the caregivers they had in daycare. A lot of those women are invested in those kids and love them. In fact the wonderful nanny we have now was one of those highly engaged, loving daycare workers we met years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

I'll add that I liked having extra sets of eyes, preferred not to have someone in my house, wanted continuity and definitely preferred daycare for when the kids got older, and didn't believe even a good nanny would provide the array of activities and stimulation, again more of a factor once you are past the infant stage.

You’ll never convince daycare parents that there was a better option for their child.

The same way nanny parents smugly think their way is the only way?

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

All those nannies I’ve seen on their phones at the park sure sound like the cream of the crop.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

All those nannies I’ve seen on their phones at the park sure sound like the cream of the crop.

Yes bc all those parents you’ve seen on their phones at the park are shi**y parents, right? Look, you have no idea if the nanny is texting the parent, checking the library schedule, taking photos or whatever. You are judging one instance. Do you want to be judged on one instance? But I’m sure you focus every ounce of energy on your child. When you are together you aren’t doing anything but staring lovingly into their eyes. Or else you wouldn’t be the cream of the crop parent, right?

The comment was that a great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids. And they can, but finding a great nanny is expensive and time consuming.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

All those nannies I’ve seen on their phones at the park sure sound like the cream of the crop.

Yes bc all those parents you’ve seen on their phones at the park are shi**y parents, right? Look, you have no idea if the nanny is texting the parent, checking the library schedule, taking photos or whatever. You are judging one instance. Do you want to be judged on one instance? But I’m sure you focus every ounce of energy on your child. When you are together you aren’t doing anything but staring lovingly into their eyes. Or else you wouldn’t be the cream of the crop parent, right?

The comment was that a great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids. And they can, but finding a great nanny is expensive and time consuming.

And not everyone has that expensive great nanny, so it’s pretty dumb to pretend that you’re somehow better than parents who choose to send their child to a good daycare.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents bond, nannies are caretakers. She sounds good if she's supervising and keeping them safe.

Not even close to being enough for me and my children. I want (and have) a nanny who is engaging, playful, happy, and loving. If I just wanted them to be alive when I got home, I’d send them to daycare.

Having a nanny isn’t always better than day care but keep telling yourself that. You want your kids to have socialization. Day care is better for that and will prepare your oldest for school.

Having a great nanny is better than the best daycare. A great nanny can do everything a great daycare can do plus lots of extras - extra attention, extra reading, extra play, homemade food, quiet home environment, etc. There are ample opportunities for a great nanny to socialize your child in play groups, play dates, storytimes, even just the park without your baby forced to listen to other screaming babies and teething toddlers. This is just a fact, PP, not an opinion. A ghost educated and experienced nanny has a better skill set than even most parents.

That said - if you cannot find it afford a great nanny, a great daycare beats a bad or mediocre nanny hands down.

It is absolutely an opinion. It might be a fairly popular opinion, but it is an opinion nonetheless. There absolutely are people who prefer daycare for a variety of reasons, even when cost is not an issue.

Then what would be the variety of reasons?

NP here: We chose a lovely in-home daycare over a nanny for a variety of reasons:
-I didn’t want to be someone’s employer that had to deal with sick leave, taxes, etc. Instead I wanted to pay for a service. That meant less stress for me, which, in turn made me a better parent for my child.
-I wanted the socialization that comes with being with other children.
-The daycare was located 10 minutes from my work.

Sorry but you chose an in home daycare. That screams it boiled down to money. A great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids.

All those nannies I’ve seen on their phones at the park sure sound like the cream of the crop.

Yes bc all those parents you’ve seen on their phones at the park are shi**y parents, right? Look, you have no idea if the nanny is texting the parent, checking the library schedule, taking photos or whatever. You are judging one instance. Do you want to be judged on one instance? But I’m sure you focus every ounce of energy on your child. When you are together you aren’t doing anything but staring lovingly into their eyes. Or else you wouldn’t be the cream of the crop parent, right?

The comment was that a great nanny can absolutely socialize your kids. And they can, but finding a great nanny is expensive and time consuming.

And not everyone has that expensive great nanny, so it’s pretty dumb to pretend that you’re somehow better than parents who choose to send their child to a good daycare.

You are clearly very insecure about your choices. You don’t even know what you are arguing, as no one is pretending that they are somehow better than parents who choose daycare. Daycare is what it is, a less expensive choice that people make. In home daycares are an even cheaper choice. A great and qualified nanny is expensive. You choose what you feel is best for your family and budget.