The true answer for why I am less interested in sex is his weight gain - do I tell him that?

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Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Let him know the weight is leading to less passion and desire for sex.

Give him a number, a target weight, and hold out the promise of something special if he reaches and maintains it.

Chances are he'll be motivated to hit it.

+100

Completely agree, he needs to know as it will only get worse if you don't hold him accountable now. Perhaps you could use various bedroom activities to incentivize him to shape up?

You don't understand how weight actually works. He will be able to take the weight off - then will gain it again.

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/

I just don't see how a relationship is successful longterm if it's premised on one partner starving themselves a lot of the time.

Op here. He doesn't need to starve himself. He just needs to cut down on his alcohol intake and stop putting stuff in his mouth when he isn't even hungry.

Maybe I need to just break up with him. He is a grown up. His weight control is his responsibility, not mine, and if he doesn't handle his health in a way that I agree with, maybe the answer is to move on.

Is he drinking more than 2 drinks a day? If a man is drinking more than 2 drinks per day, every day, that would be classified as an alcohol problem. It can
be very difficult for those with alcohol problems to stop drinking. For a woman the same would hold true for more than 1 drink a day, every day as we are lighter weight.
If he is drinking 3-20 drinks per day, every day, that would be an alcohol problem. It would be very difficult for those with alcohol problems to change unless they want to.

So every woman that drinks a glass of wine with dinner has an alcohol problem?

Ignore this poster, op. It’s the habits that matter. Does he exercise? Show interest in eating healthy?

Frankly it sounds like he trends bigger and you’re a mismatch if it matters that much to you. Cut both of your losses now.