When a lover/spouse dies...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...and you can’t move on.

Four months ago, my beloved one passed away. Wed known each other for over twenty years.

Always compatible mentally and physically, he had challenges with drugs in recent years and I kept my distance. Always kind to me and I to him no matter what.

Since his passing, I have been unable to move on. All fantasies involve him, I find myself imagining him pleasuring me when I take time to self pleasure.

I miss him deeply. Is this normal ?

Yes, completely normal. And I am so sorry for your loss.

I reconnected with my high school boyfriend after 30 years. We had a wonderful six years together when he had a heart attack and died. He was the first and last boy I kissed. I longed for him for a long time. Then the grief changes to being able to think about him with a smile or giggle instead of tears.

And now when I think about him, which is all the time, he’s young! His gorgeous high school self.

Hang in there, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop using the term Soulmate. If you didn't end up with this person they weren't your soulmate. Maybe a F buddy, but seriously stop the fantasy. If they married someone else you aren't anything to them. Now if your spouse died that is really sad and crappy. Otherwise you're inventing a past that wasn't going to come into play.

You’re a ghoul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop using the term Soulmate. If you didn't end up with this person they weren't your soulmate. Maybe a F buddy, but seriously stop the fantasy. If they married someone else you aren't anything to them. Now if your spouse died that is really sad and crappy. Otherwise you're inventing a past that wasn't going to come into play.

You’re a ghoul.

You have people on here who really suffered the loss of a spouse. Or someone they are with.

Others are talking about affairs they had while married. Not even comparable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop using the term Soulmate. If you didn't end up with this person they weren't your soulmate. Maybe a F buddy, but seriously stop the fantasy. If they married someone else you aren't anything to them. Now if your spouse died that is really sad and crappy. Otherwise you're inventing a past that wasn't going to come into play.

You’re a ghoul.

Seriously, OP sounds like a very angry and narrow-minded person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop using the term Soulmate. If you didn't end up with this person they weren't your soulmate. Maybe a F buddy, but seriously stop the fantasy. If they married someone else you aren't anything to them. Now if your spouse died that is really sad and crappy. Otherwise you're inventing a past that wasn't going to come into play.

You’re a ghoul.

Seriously, OP sounds like a very angry and narrow-minded person.

OP didn't strike me that way. More like a troll post with the sex part added.

PP calling someone a ghoul...sounds a little angry imo