Why are parents so invested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Families and players are not “terrorized” every week at soccer games.

dude said it happens, nothing about being terrorized. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Families and players are not “terrorized” every week at soccer games.

dude said it happens, nothing about being terrorized. LOL

Read the OP

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/829554.page#top

"It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.

It is a GAME - lighten up!

I totally agree with you, OP. Every word.

I agree!

And I will add that I am sick and tired of seeing players willing to beat up other players--and coaches and parents encouraging them to do so!

[Anonymous]

^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

Yep. It's so messed up.

I don't want to tell my kid to shove back. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

You mean like competing in practice?

Join band already.

[Anonymous]

The coaches terrorize the girls at our club, they have 50 girls on a roster and tell them they are competing for roster spots each weekend when that’s clearly a lie. Then they turn around and let the 8 “chosen” players on Monday and Tuesday “rest” while the others bust their asses in practice to make rosters that have already been set. It’s really quite demoralizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The coaches terrorize the girls at our club, they have 50 girls on a roster and tell them they are competing for roster spots each weekend when that’s clearly a lie. Then they turn around and let the 8 “chosen” players on Monday and Tuesday “rest” while the others bust their asses in practice to make rosters that have already been set. It’s really quite demoralizing.

This makes sense now. Your kid isn't a starter. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

You mean like competing in practice?

Join band already.

+1

Same parents who think their kids should retaliate when the kid doesn't want to hang out with your kid anymore. The parents are the problem, coaching their kids to do this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

Yep. It's so messed up.

I don't want to tell my kid to shove back. Ugh.

Finesse works. Nothing like seeing a dumb ox fall down after being brutalized 1v1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

Yep. It's so messed up.

I don't want to tell my kid to shove back. Ugh.

Finesse works. Nothing like seeing a dumb ox fall down after being brutalized 1v1.

The problem is the kid has to be good enough to that already.

Narrator: She isn't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

You mean like competing in practice?

Join band already.

+1

Same parents who think their kids should retaliate when the kid doesn't want to hang out with your kid anymore. The parents are the problem, coaching their kids to do this kind of thing.

Nope that’s different. We are talking about on the soccer field only and kids feel like they need to look good in front of the coach by elbowing your kid first and pushing the kid to the ground. Next practice, the girl lands pretty hard , enough to say Ouch, and that was the last time my kid gets knocked over. Just describing soccer is ruthless on certain teams. You have to survive. Truth. Not saying it’s the right thing to do. What’s the alternative , complain to the coach? ?

[Anonymous]

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I have had kids in other competitive activities, and observed parents there, and it's JUST the team sports parents who act like this. Gym? Hyper-competitive, everyone stays calm. Violin? Hyper-competitive, everyone stays calm. Soccer? All hell breaks loose.

Something about the nature of the sport, and its history of hooliganism, racial/ethnic slurs and insults, make some parents think it's fine to behave like this.

Clearly you've never a daughter who is a gymnast --- it may not be as loud or blatant, but the back stabbing / game playing / nastiness is much worse than soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’ve seen players elbow and shove to the ground teammates to compete for playing time. It works. I tell my kid to shove them back and harder. Youth soccer is broken in so many ways

You mean like competing in practice?

Join band already.

+1

Same parents who think their kids should retaliate when the kid doesn't want to hang out with your kid anymore. The parents are the problem, coaching their kids to do this kind of thing.

Nope that’s different. We are talking about on the soccer field only and kids feel like they need to look good in front of the coach by elbowing your kid first and pushing the kid to the ground. Next practice, the girl lands pretty hard , enough to say Ouch, and that was the last time my kid gets knocked over. Just describing soccer is ruthless on certain teams. You have to survive. Truth. Not saying it’s the right thing to do. What’s the alternative , complain to the coach? ?

LOL

Surviving practice. Forget band, you have to compete to move up a chair in that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.

It is a GAME - lighten up!

Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.

Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?

Are you deaf, blind, or both? Yes it happens, i see it all the time and although it shouldn't don't pretend it doesn't happen.

It doesn’t happen all the time. You’re being overly dramatic.

New poster. The fact that you don't hear it means that you have become desensitized. My kids are on teams that are relatively well-behaved and the parents still routinely yell, "Foul, come on, ref!" and gasp loudly when there is shoulder to shoulder contact and scream "OFFSIDES!" not to mention, "Pressure!" and "SHOOT IT!" all the time, every game. They wouldn't berate other kids, ever, but they shouldn't be saying any of these things! Occasionally over the years, we have had one of those joystick parents who coaches his kid's every move. And these are all relatively calm people with decent attitudes. I have seen truly appalling behavior from other parents, though.

I agree with the OP. Why is any adult so invested in youth soccer. I am not even saying keep it positive (it should go without saying). I am saying, everyone should care a LOT less.