529 donations in lieu of wedding registry. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Um, you'll need the kids' SSN for 529 contributions. Are the bride and groom giving out that kind of info ??

Or is it more like "make checks payable to bride & groom and we pinky promise to transfer it from our account to the kids' 529"...wink, wink.

[Anonymous]

Tacky. Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

It's tacky.

First and foremost, let people just give cash and they can transfer to 529 or wherever. It's especially tacky since most people will be older with kids struggling to put money in their own kids 529.

And yes, second marriages should be more subdued. Not just because it's a little off when people are saying I do forever and I really mean it this time. But also because many people have already been to his wedding and paid to go and sent a gift.

[Anonymous]

Blech. Never. Would make me want to pass on the wedding altogether unless they were close family or close friends. In which case I'd tell them that their registry idea was really, really out of bounds.

[Anonymous]

She’s never been married, has two kids and they are asking for 529 donations. Tackiest things I’ve ever heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a couple who each bring prior kids to a marriage is spending money on a wedding big enough to have a registry and asking for college donations, then their priorities are upside down.

Second wedding in this situation should be a county courthouse, small sit down meal, backyard, close family and friends only. If more than 3-5K is spent total, there’s something wrong.

I say this as a person who didn’t spend money on a wedding because it seemed an extravagance when I was in grad school with little kids.

Lol...the only acceptable wedding is at the courthouse because one of they has been previously married?? I love the specifics with which people will judge others (complete with dictating this couple's wedding budget, good Lord).

Also to everyone crowing about this "big wedding"...I didn't read anything about the size of the wedding; OP's question was about the registry (to which I say meh, no different than cash and this older couple is probably loathe to acquire more "stuff").

Sounds like a family event, not a giant wedding; these can be lovely and touching. No one needs to slink around shamefully in their backyard, FFS.

No, not because they’ve been previously married, but because they have KIDS and responsible parents don’t spend extravagantly on something for themselves if they haven’t financially taken care of their kids.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

A 529 donation seems really tacky.

I have been to weddings that have money wishing wells. People put a card with money or cheque into the well - which is usually a nice decorative box.

They had established households however it was their first marriage. People are also using gift registries for honeymoon payments. I think times have changed, people don't expect to give gifts if people have established houses.

[Anonymous]

I would have no problem with this. I usually give money anyway, so if you direct that money to a 529 instead of a Honeyfund or envelope cage or whatever the heck, I don't particularly care.

[Anonymous]

I always give cash anyways & don't care how the couple chooses to spend it. I do think it's tacky to ask for 529 funds just as it'd be tacky to say "contribute to our annual property tax bill or monthly grocery fund." DO i care if that's how they spend my check? No. But don't put it on the registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, no request for gifts at second wedding, it is extremely tacky.

Baby Daddy(ies) of two daughters and their Mom should
be funding their college funds.

Mom and Dad of 3rd girl should be funding her college
fund.

A wedding is not a college fund fundraiser.

+1 esp re: no gift requests. Seriously, who raised ppl who do this? Then you all say poor ppl have no class. Look at yourselves.

[Anonymous]

If these folks can afford a second big wedding they can afford to pay for college. If they can’t afford college for three kids then they can’t afford a second wedding. A 529 on the registry is so tacky and shows they aren’t very bright when it comes to managing their finances.

[Anonymous]

Sounds very tacky.

Since when do people fund their child’s education via a wedding “gift.....??!”

[Anonymous]

I never had any problems giving money. I enjoy even more to give money as a gift when the couple specifically asked for it. I am European. I find bunch of unnecessary household items much more tacky than money. And the amount of judgement on this thread from the people who pretend to be “classy” just astonishing.

[Anonymous]

Super tacky.

I'd buy them a crystal candy dish or something.