Why does it matter if your kid swears?

[Anonymous]

Well, adults shouldn’t be swearing in public either. It’s rude and inappropriate in most cases. And not everything that’s okay for adults is okay for kids, especially since most swear words in English are inherently vulgar at their literal meaning.
Why give words power? Words have always had power, and some words more than others. This is how humans communicate. It’s not unique to English or the USA.
Groups (think 1960s hippy types) have made these arguments before (it’s just a word! Why give it power?) about swearing. But most of society disagrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just sounds wrong, and it's vulgar. And vulgar things coming out of a little child's mouth is just wrong.

I swore like sailor when I was younger. I try not to swear in front of my MS/HS children, and in return, they respectfully not say those words in front of me. I know they say it, just not in front of me.

I hear it's vulgar all the time, but never *why* it's vulgar? And you need something more than your mother said so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just sounds wrong, and it's vulgar. And vulgar things coming out of a little child's mouth is just wrong.

I swore like sailor when I was younger. I try not to swear in front of my MS/HS children, and in return, they respectfully not say those words in front of me. I know they say it, just not in front of me.

I hear it's vulgar all the time, but never *why* it's vulgar? And you need something more than your mother said so.

Vulgar is just an opinion pp. It meant whatever it is is offensive. The reality of the world and our culture is that a lot of people find swearing vulgar and so part of growing up and raising kids so they can be successful is to ensure they know what's offensive so they can learn to edit.

[Anonymous]

Swearing to me is different from cursing - cursing a diety or a group of people is a no go. That is just intolerance

A swear word is kind of like a fart or a burp. Sometimes you just need a good one and it feels great but you need to do it in the right place at the right time with the right people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just sounds wrong, and it's vulgar. And vulgar things coming out of a little child's mouth is just wrong.

I swore like sailor when I was younger. I try not to swear in front of my MS/HS children, and in return, they respectfully not say those words in front of me. I know they say it, just not in front of me.

I hear it's vulgar all the time, but never *why* it's vulgar? And you need something more than your mother said so.

Vulgar is just an opinion pp. It meant whatever it is is offensive. The reality of the world and our culture is that a lot of people find swearing vulgar and so part of growing up and raising kids so they can be successful is to ensure they know what's offensive so they can learn to edit.

Sigh. OK, so you've defined vulgar as offensive, which is also just an opinion and offers nothing to answer the question. So now, why is swearing offensive?

Also, as for being successful in life - you are under the impression that successful people don't swear? I think you haven't been around many successful people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Swearing to me is different from cursing - cursing a diety or a group of people is a no go. That is just intolerance

A swear word is kind of like a fart or a burp. Sometimes you just need a good one and it feels great but you need to do it in the right place at the right time with the right people.

In an elevator by yourself?

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t matter what YOU think about those words. What matters is what the world thinks. And teachers, other parents, coaches, cops, and random strangers on the street are not going to think it’s cute that your child is dropping the f bomb. They will think he is a delinquent and they will eye him with suspicion. And because he was never taught otherwise, he will not know why people are treating him this way. He may even develop anger and resistance to these other adults, who from his perspective seem to dislike him for no reason. Save him from this fate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter what YOU think about those words. What matters is what the world thinks. And teachers, other parents, coaches, cops, and random strangers on the street are not going to think it’s cute that your child is dropping the f bomb. They will think he is a delinquent and they will eye him with suspicion. And because he was never taught otherwise, he will not know why people are treating him this way. He may even develop anger and resistance to these other adults, who from his perspective seem to dislike him for no reason. Save him from this fate.

I'd respond to this, but I just strained myself rolling my eyes so much I have to go to the doctor. So I can't point out how many ways in which this post is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

So you’re raising one of these kids that I work with now, who thinks it’s ok to use profane language at work. It’s not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you’re raising one of these kids that I work with now, who thinks it’s ok to use profane language at work. It’s not.

I suppose so. But, since she's quite a bit smarter than you are, I'm not worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I guess my question is why is it that we give the "f" word or sh$% or whatever such power that using them becomes "not elegant" or that there's a "time and place." Yea, its what we've all grown up with, but why? Why does it matter?

If you need to ask them you won't understand why it is inappropriate for children to swear. Personally, I would not allow children to play with children who swear or who use the "f" or "s" word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter what YOU think about those words. What matters is what the world thinks. And teachers, other parents, coaches, cops, and random strangers on the street are not going to think it’s cute that your child is dropping the f bomb. They will think he is a delinquent and they will eye him with suspicion. And because he was never taught otherwise, he will not know why people are treating him this way. He may even develop anger and resistance to these other adults, who from his perspective seem to dislike him for no reason. Save him from this fate.

I'd respond to this, but I just strained myself rolling my eyes so much I have to go to the doctor. So I can't point out how many ways in which this post is ridiculous.

Laughing as I imagine tiny eye crutches. think Walgreens carries them. May the odds be ever in your favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lack of respect for others. Lack of self-control.

When a kid does it, it shows that you are a bad parent incapable of teaching respect for others and self-control.

You can whine about "why?" all you want, it's still true.

+1

And OP’s “deep thoughts” on this matter make me wonder if she is a middle schooler, who seem fascinated by such matters, or if she just skipped over “deep middle school thought” while growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter what YOU think about those words. What matters is what the world thinks. And teachers, other parents, coaches, cops, and random strangers on the street are not going to think it’s cute that your child is dropping the f bomb. They will think he is a delinquent and they will eye him with suspicion. And because he was never taught otherwise, he will not know why people are treating him this way. He may even develop anger and resistance to these other adults, who from his perspective seem to dislike him for no reason. Save him from this fate.

I'd respond to this, but I just strained myself rolling my eyes so much I have to go to the doctor. So I can't point out how many ways in which this post is ridiculous.

Not that PP but I agree with it 100%. Roll your eyes all you want, you and your kid are going to be judged negatively if your kid swears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re raising one of these kids that I work with now, who thinks it’s ok to use profane language at work. It’s not.

I suppose so. But, since she's quite a bit smarter than you are, I'm not worried.

But not smart enough to figure out adults aren’t going to like her much if she is dropping F bombs in front of them, or smart enough to realize other parents won’t let their kids over to play if she swears all the time