Colleges that do NOT push individual pronouns

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Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

False. Virginia Tech put all pronouns on orientation tags.

Hi there. I literally, actually work orientation events at the University of Maryland. For some aspects of some events, you are invited to share that info if you want to; but if you leave it blank, your name tag is printed without that info.

Just like there's a space if you have a suffix in your name. Nobody is forcing you to put Jr. if you don't want to or that doesn't apply to you. But it's there if you need it. Do you get it?

Have a problem with Virginia Tech? Don't go there. But I guarantee if someone doesn't want to share that info, they don't HAVE to. You can always talk to someone about completing your registration/getting your materials without sharing that info. Open your mouth and speak if you have a question or a problem.

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Op you’re ridiculous. THIS is what you are worried about????

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How is creating a field ona registration form to be used if you want to "pushing" anything?

If you can't register for something without sharing that info and you don't want to, ask for assistance. Life is not hard.

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Anonymous wrote:That's absurd and I wouldn't want my daughter forced in a room with a boy who claims to be a girl.

She wouldn’t be. My kid is applying to Oberlin, which is far to the left on gender identity. They ask kids who they are comfortable rooming with and honor that. Not the parents. The kids. They also do a secret ballot vote as dorm halls on the designation of the bathrooms, with one in the dorm being non-binary. The have single sex halls for kids who want them. They also let kids who want to live with a boyfriend/girlfriend do that.

So Oberlin probably out OP. Given that they respect all kids wishes, and not just yours.


https://www.oberlin.edu/housing/policies-accommodations/gender

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Anonymous wrote:Your use of the term "intersex" speaks volumes.

Pronouns have to do with people's preferences and how they self-identify. Not with having been born with indeterminate genitals.

You probably are a huge Red Skins fan, because obviously you are not about respecting how people prefer to be addressed.

Would you call me Ms, if I preferred that: or do you do you believe that I need to announce my marital status lane because old people are more comfortable with that???

Why do THEY have to be called pronouns that YOU prefer?

Most people don't do formal Mrs/MS anymore but that is completely different. Lots of married teachers go by Ms.

I would find it horribly uncomfortable to be asked if I was a woman. Yes, I am.

Then how would you feel if someone insisted on addressing you as “he” because they disagreed with you?

Also get over. The world won’t end if you are asked how you prefer to be addressed and you say “Mrs.X”.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

It's not stupid. I don't want my child indoctrinated into thinking that picking your own pronouns is normal. Again, if a person is truly intersex, I understand that this person will have special circumstances.

If your kid is not an idiot you should have no fear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

It's not stupid. I don't want my child indoctrinated into thinking that picking your own pronouns is normal. Again, if a person is truly intersex, I understand that this person will have special circumstances.

so you'll make someone show you their genitalia before you use the name and pronoun they prefer? and that is the more moral way?

you've had 18 yrs to teach your child to be a bigot. if you want to continue to enforce that, try Liberty U.

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The ignorance displayed here is stunning. No one is walking up to people saying “are you a woman?” They are saying which pronouns do you use (which is NOT a biology question oh clueless one). If you self identify as a woman, just remember the grammar you learned in elementary school, and answer “she, her.” No one is asking you to change that. Don’t ask those people to change what they want to be called!

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Tell your kid to have fun at Liberty University, OP.

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Not just a bigot, not just a helicopter mom, a Bigot Helicopter mom.

Wowwwwwww.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who have children currently in college, could you tell me which colleges and universities have NOT latched onto everyone announcing their personal pronouns? I don't mind using a novel pronoun for someone who is truly intersex, but I acknowledge most of the world as binary.

Thank you.

Bob Jones University
Liberty
Brigham Young -Provo, Hawaii and Idaho
Southern Virginia University
Notre Dame
Thomas More
Benedictine College
Fairfield University
Regent University

Are a few

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

It's not stupid. I don't want my child indoctrinated into thinking that picking your own pronouns is normal. Again, if a person is truly intersex, I understand that this person will have special circumstances.

If your kid is not an idiot you should have no fear.

+1. And what if your kid has to go out and live in a world where picking pronouns is the norm? Work in a workplace where gender identity is respected? College is about teaching kids you survive in the real world. And the largest university— known for STEM— in a purple state State is a good indication of what the norms will be for them. You can send them to Liberty. They’ll still have to get a job in the real world. A world where gender identity and sexual orientation may well be legally protected categories. Then what?

Plus, if you raised your kids with what you consider to be good values, you should be confident they will keep those values and won’t be “indoctrinated,” but will get the skills they need to navigate the 21st century.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your use of the term "intersex" speaks volumes.

Pronouns have to do with people's preferences and how they self-identify. Not with having been born with indeterminate genitals.

You probably are a huge Red Skins fan, because obviously you are not about respecting how people prefer to be addressed.

Would you call me Ms, if I preferred that: or do you do you believe that I need to announce my marital status lane because old people are more comfortable with that???

Why do THEY have to be called pronouns that YOU prefer?

Intersex is a biological term. What's wrong with using it? I don't have to use any pronouns. "Chris is an interesting person. I would like to see more of Chris's artwork. Chris should be very proud of the work that Chris has done."

I'm not a fan of the Redskins name and I care very much about racial equality. I will call someone Ms. I prefer Mrs. for myself. If you call me Ms., that's fine, too. Just don't call me Mx.

So you ask Chris to drop trou so you can make sure they are biologically intersex before you agree to the concession of using their name?

Okay then.

You. Are. Nuts. The rest of us are looking at SATs and GPaS and APs and college essays and ROI and NOVA college quotas and trying to figure out how to pay for college. It must be nice to have your “problems”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

It's not stupid. I don't want my child indoctrinated into thinking that picking your own pronouns is normal. Again, if a person is truly intersex, I understand that this person will have special circumstances.

so you'll make someone show you their genitalia before you use the name and pronoun they prefer? and that is the more moral way?

you've had 18 yrs to teach your child to be a bigot. if you want to continue to enforce that, try Liberty U.

Before she’ll use the name they prefer. She’s clear she won’t use their preferred pronoun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not just a bigot, not just a helicopter mom, a Bigot Helicopter mom.

Wowwwwwww.