Colleges that do NOT push individual pronouns

[Anonymous]

Your use of the term "intersex" speaks volumes.

Pronouns have to do with people's preferences and how they self-identify. Not with having been born with indeterminate genitals.

You probably are a huge Red Skins fan, because obviously you are not about respecting how people prefer to be addressed.

Would you call me Ms, if I preferred that: or do you do you believe that I need to announce my marital status lane because old people are more comfortable with that???

Why do THEY have to be called pronouns that YOU prefer?

[Anonymous]

That's absurd and I wouldn't want my daughter forced in a room with a boy who claims to be a girl.

[Anonymous]

College guides like Princeton Review rank the top and bottom colleges for liberalism and LGBQT-friendly schools. That might be a good place for you to start if you feel strongly about this topic, but I suspect your child is embarrassed by you and your perspective.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your use of the term "intersex" speaks volumes.

Pronouns have to do with people's preferences and how they self-identify. Not with having been born with indeterminate genitals.

You probably are a huge Red Skins fan, because obviously you are not about respecting how people prefer to be addressed.

Would you call me Ms, if I preferred that: or do you do you believe that I need to announce my marital status lane because old people are more comfortable with that???

Why do THEY have to be called pronouns that YOU prefer?

Most people don't do formal Mrs/MS anymore but that is completely different. Lots of married teachers go by Ms.

I would find it horribly uncomfortable to be asked if I was a woman. Yes, I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your use of the term "intersex" speaks volumes.

Pronouns have to do with people's preferences and how they self-identify. Not with having been born with indeterminate genitals.

You probably are a huge Red Skins fan, because obviously you are not about respecting how people prefer to be addressed.

Would you call me Ms, if I preferred that: or do you do you believe that I need to announce my marital status lane because old people are more comfortable with that???

Why do THEY have to be called pronouns that YOU prefer?

Intersex is a biological term. What's wrong with using it? I don't have to use any pronouns. "Chris is an interesting person. I would like to see more of Chris's artwork. Chris should be very proud of the work that Chris has done."

I'm not a fan of the Redskins name and I care very much about racial equality. I will call someone Ms. I prefer Mrs. for myself. If you call me Ms., that's fine, too. Just don't call me Mx.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

^^Plus, sounds like Virginia Tech mom needs to get a life/hobby. My parents certainly never asked or cared what was going on with freaking nametags at my university. If they ever noticed something unusual about my college experiences, they might have been like, "Oh, I see Teeter is no longer a women's-only dorm" in casual conversation; they didn't feel the need to write a "blog" about MY college experience. FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

False. Virginia Tech put all pronouns on orientation tags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

^^Plus, sounds like Virginia Tech mom needs to get a life/hobby. My parents certainly never asked or cared what was going on with freaking nametags at my university. If they ever noticed something unusual about my college experiences, they might have been like, "Oh, I see Teeter is no longer a women's-only dorm" in casual conversation; they didn't feel the need to write a "blog" about MY college experience. FFS.

Um, I'm pretty sure that the mom and dad are PAYING for the college experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College guides like Princeton Review rank the top and bottom colleges for liberalism and LGBQT-friendly schools. That might be a good place for you to start if you feel strongly about this topic, but I suspect your child is embarrassed by you and your perspective.

My child is embarrassed that I think vaping is unhealthy. Teens are embarrassed by a lot of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College guides like Princeton Review rank the top and bottom colleges for liberalism and LGBQT-friendly schools. That might be a good place for you to start if you feel strongly about this topic, but I suspect your child is embarrassed by you and your perspective.

My child is embarrassed that I think vaping is unhealthy. Teens are embarrassed by a lot of things.

My child is embarrassed if I put out a vegetable platter at a party.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about this, either your child will adopt your viewpoint or not. Let them choose their college based on their desired field of study.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in higher ed. This is not a university-wide thing; this is a thing when there are sub-groups and smaller units.

So it's not like UVA will prompt you globally to share your pronouns. It's more like when you join a living-learning program, an email from the director will go around; or if you sign up for a conference, they will prompt it during registration; or when you join a club, an email will get sent around...

This happens in businesses, corporations, nonprofits, etc., OP. When I'm prompted or ask to do so at my institution, I simply don't. I'm never pushed.

OP here. Thank you. A Virginia Tech mom recently wrote an article about all students bearing pronouns on their pre-printed orientation nametags. I'm just curious about how ubiquitous this practice is.

When prompted, some students choose to share that info, and some do not. If you don't enter that information, the name tag will just state your name. What is hard to grasp about this?

^^Plus, sounds like Virginia Tech mom needs to get a life/hobby. My parents certainly never asked or cared what was going on with freaking nametags at my university. If they ever noticed something unusual about my college experiences, they might have been like, "Oh, I see Teeter is no longer a women's-only dorm" in casual conversation; they didn't feel the need to write a "blog" about MY college experience. FFS.

Um, I'm pretty sure that the mom and dad are PAYING for the college experience.

UMMMM, I'm pretty sure you have a terribly limited worldview if you think that is the case for all college students. UMMMMMM, I put myself through college with scholarships and a tech job at the registrar's office. UMMMMMM, OK?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

It's not stupid. I don't want my child indoctrinated into thinking that picking your own pronouns is normal. Again, if a person is truly intersex, I understand that this person will have special circumstances.

PS - I actually do know young people who identify as nonbinary. I've welcomed them into my home and enjoyed their company at school events. I will refer to a "nonbinary" person as Chris, or whatever, but I'm not going to reinforce a fantasy.

Please tell Chris that you think the pronouns they use are “a fantasy” that they are “indoctrinating” your children withnso that they c an stop associating with your bigoted self.

Am I supposed to approve of everything that my teen's acquaintances do?

No. But you could choose to be kind. I don’t really understand the gender non-binary phenomenon. I grew up in the Deep South where homosexuality was stigmatized.

But I ask myself:

Is it illegal?

Is it harmful? And not in a my morals or the highway sort of way. But in an is the person clearly, objectively in a position of bodily harm sort of way.

Is anyone else being hurt? Again. Objectively.

And if it’s no, no, no, then I look and say— this kid is going through something difficult. I can’t begin to understand them. So I am going to listen when they tell me how I can help or what they prefer.

Because kindness and Christianity and the Golden Rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the single stupidest criterion I’ve heard for picking colleges. Get a real problem.

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