How did you go NC with your estranged parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't respond, don't respond, don't respond, don't respond. There will be a thousand and one excuses to contact you. DON'T RESPOND.

Also be prepared to lose friends and siblings. I didn't want to convince anyone of my side, so I lost a lot. I kept my dignity and integrity, though. Some people -- BPL types -- really freak out if they're abandoned and will try to eviscerate you and turn everyone against you. So be it. Don't be that way back.

Life is 100,000 times better now. Best decision I ever made, bar none.

What is BPL? Also, will you respond if the person is dying?

[Anonymous]

Three years. (I was sexually abused and confronted the parent.) Also lost contact with: my half-siblings, my stepmom of 15 years, all aunts, uncles, and cousins, and my grandmother. That said, I couldn’t really have healed from the abuse if I’d stayed in contact, because staying in contact forced me to deny that part of myself. I’ve grown a tremendous amount in this time span.