Sister hung up on me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset.

Why isn't your sister independent and self-reliant?

She’s 19. Has a low paying retail job. Parents will get her a car soon. Not sure when.

Then, she should wash her dogs at home. She can’t afford groomed dogs.

I don't think the poster with the 19 year old sister is OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset.

Why isn't your sister independent and self-reliant?

She’s 19. Has a low paying retail job. Parents will get her a car soon. Not sure when.

Then, she should wash her dogs at home. She can’t afford groomed dogs.

I don't think the poster with the 19 year old sister is OP.

Op here . That’s my comment. I thought the comment was for me.

[Anonymous]

I have a 9-5 so usually I’m available on weekends. She never takes her dog to the groomers. The point was she hung up and didn’t even let me suggest other days that were better for me.

[Anonymous]

I love my siblings, and I am not a bean counter, so I would have either offered to let her use my car or cut my workout a little short to help her out. It’s one workout; it wasn’t a doctor’s appointment or a work obligation. But it sounds like you kind of enjoy being a selfish bitch, so there ya go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my siblings, and I am not a bean counter, so I would have either offered to let her use my car or cut my workout a little short to help her out. It’s one workout; it wasn’t a doctor’s appointment or a work obligation. But it sounds like you kind of enjoy being a selfish bitch, so there ya go.

OP ignore these dipsh!ts.

There are people in the world who expect others to drop everything and pick up after them, in totally non-emergency scenarios. And then there are normal people who understand the world doesn't revolve around them.

Your sister was rude and bratty, OP. Tell her to rent a zipcar.

[Anonymous]

Block her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister and I are going to a concert on Saturday night. We’re leaving around 4 pm. So she calls me and asks me if before I can drive her to get her dogs groomed. I said no because I work out in the morning at the gym and have other errands planned. She said “I’m asking you to help me” and I said “well I work out and that takes me a long time” and hung up. I guess I’m just venting since I said no and she got upset. I feel bad now in retrospect but out of all the days she asks me for help she wants to do this the day we have a concert to go to. Am I being selfish? There are plenty of other days we can do this but it’s not like we have all day to wait around for the dogs.

Who hung up on who?

[Anonymous]

Sister hung up on OP. Didn’t you read the title...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my siblings, and I am not a bean counter, so I would have either offered to let her use my car or cut my workout a little short to help her out. It’s one workout; it wasn’t a doctor’s appointment or a work obligation. But it sounds like you kind of enjoy being a selfish bitch, so there ya go.

This is the way you react when someone can't do *you* a favor right then, right there exactly as you want it?

Good grief.

[Anonymous]

She said “I’m asking you to help me” and I said “well I work out and that takes me a long time” and hung up.

Sounds like YOU hung up, not here, but apparently she hung up? I hope this kind of confusion does not otherwise characterize the communication.

I would try to let it go. It may have been a moment.

Or if, rethinking, you have an idea to make it work that you are fine with, call her back. If not, call her back anyway just to let her know one more errand is going to have you overwhelmed and you're counting on the workout and whatever else as well as the concert. I can see where with a day with a lot on it already one more request could throw you off.

Just don't let the hang up become an issue on top of other things. Let the hang up part go completely. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: She said “I’m asking you to help me” and I said “well I work out and that takes me a long time” and hung up.

Sounds like YOU hung up, not here, but apparently she hung up? I hope this kind of confusion does not otherwise characterize the communication.

I would try to let it go. It may have been a moment.

Or if, rethinking, you have an idea to make it work that you are fine with, call her back. If not, call her back anyway just to let her know one more errand is going to have you overwhelmed and you're counting on the workout and whatever else as well as the concert. I can see where with a day with a lot on it already one more request could throw you off.

Just don't let the hang up become an issue on top of other things. Let the hang up part go completely. Life is too short.

My sister hung up. Sorry for not making it clear in the text. I should have put “she hung up.”

[Anonymous]

OP. have you talked with yoru sister since the hang up?

IMO if she hung up on me, Id assume that she figured out another way to get her pups to the groomer.

although they other thing I have done. when people hang up on me and I know they hung up on me...

I call them right back. "hey sorry about that, I dropped my phone and when I picked it up I must have hung up on you.. So the last thing I said was I was....."

kind of like calling their bluff. and also giving them a way "out"

although I have also hung up on people on purpose, and called them right back "sorry, phone fell off the phone holder in the car..." gives me the satisfaction of hanging up on them with no social consequences. although you can only do it once or twice. so make it count.