Sister hung up on me.
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Anonymous
| My sister and I are going to a concert on Saturday night. We’re leaving around 4 pm. So she calls me and asks me if before I can drive her to get her dogs groomed. I said no because I work out in the morning at the gym and have other errands planned. She said “I’m asking you to help me” and I said “well I work out and that takes me a long time” and hung up. I guess I’m just venting since I said no and she got upset. I feel bad now in retrospect but out of all the days she asks me for help she wants to do this the day we have a concert to go to. Am I being selfish? There are plenty of other days we can do this but it’s not like we have all day to wait around for the dogs. |
Anonymous
| Where to fight people are but there are events to hang up why is this even worth your energy to post about this |
Anonymous
| She's frustrated because she's in a bind and could have used your help. She'll get over it. Pick her up for the concert as planned. |
Anonymous
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You have the right to say no, she has the right to get upset. What’s missing is whether she really needs a ride for her dogs and whether your stuff is easily rescheduled. I hope you declined gracefully - manners go a long way to smooth over awkward moments. |
Anonymous
| Generally I try to help my sister. I like her. She’s like a BFF. Why didn’t you offer that she take your car while you work out and if she can’t pick you up when you’re done, that she Venmo you the Uber money you’ll spend to get back home? This was solvable and nbd. |
Anonymous
It's not OP's responsibility to ensure sister's errands are done with flawless transportation. Sister should have arranged transportation for her own errands way beforehand. She doesn't sound responsible enough to have dogs- she can't even arrange a ride on her own. |
Anonymous
| Op here. I love and like my sister a lot too. If she wouldn’t have hung up I was going to offer to either take her next Friday or Saturday since those days work better for me. But she decided to be rude and hang up. |
Anonymous
| If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset. |
Anonymous
Why isn't your sister independent and self-reliant? |
Anonymous
Yet you used your energy to post a negative response. |
Anonymous
She’s 19. Has a low paying retail job. Parents will get her a car soon. Not sure when. |
Anonymous
| Oops, im OP on the previous post ^^ not the poster from the comment |
Anonymous
So she cannot get her own car, but her family will drop everything when she says to? Why does she not have any responsibility? |
Anonymous
Your sister was rude to hang up. Seemingly there is a pattern with you two, no? Hanging up on people is an atypical response. But what behavior do you own? Couldn’t you have found a work-around? Are you always inflexible? Did she predict that behavior and just decide, no not today. Not another effing day. |
Anonymous
I’m typically always available and say yes. I can’t remember the last time I said no to her. |