Sister hung up on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I love and like my sister a lot too. If she wouldn’t have hung up I was going to offer to either take her next Friday or Saturday since those days work better for me. But she decided to be rude and hang up.

Your sister was rude to hang up. Seemingly there is a pattern with you two, no? Hanging up on people is an atypical response. But what behavior do you own? Couldn’t you have found a work-around? Are you always inflexible? Did she predict that behavior and just decide, no not today. Not another effing day.

I’m typically always available and say yes. I can’t remember the last time I said no to her.

You need to say no more often. She needs to be an adult.

[Anonymous]

Op, you said no. Relationships survive, "no". Stop over thinking this.

and "feeling bad" is no indication of anything

[Anonymous]

She’s 19 and has a low paying retail job and no car but she has a dog? She can’t afford a dog if she has to rely on you to take it to the groomers. She shouldn’t have one. Why doesn’t she save money by grooming the dog herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where to fight people are but there are events to hang up why is this even worth your energy to post about this

Yet you used your energy to post a negative response.

How can you even tell that this is a negative response? The first half is a string of random words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset.

Why isn't your sister independent and self-reliant?

She’s 19. Has a low paying retail job. Parents will get her a car soon. Not sure when.

But she's paying for dog grooming? Sister needs to get priorities in some sort of reasonable order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where to fight people are but there are events to hang up why is this even worth your energy to post about this

Yet you used your energy to post a negative response.

How can you even tell that this is a negative response? The first half is a string of random words.

Not that PP but because it's readable enough to see that it's the typical response where the poster thinks it makes them seem really clever to rush in and criticize the existence of the thread. (The best response if one doesn't think the topic is worthy is to press the back button on the browser.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset.

Why isn't your sister independent and self-reliant?

She’s 19. Has a low paying retail job. Parents will get her a car soon. Not sure when.

Then, she should wash her dogs at home. She can’t afford groomed dogs.

[Anonymous]

She should go to dog grooming school and become a certified dog groomer. That way she could groom her own dogs and earn enough money as a groomer that she could buy her own car.

[Anonymous]

Why do people get dogs they can't take care of? If your sister needs to get her dog groomed, she shouldn't have to rely on other people to do so.

Your sister was rude and immature, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If one of my sisters calls me and asks for help, I’ll drop just about anything to help her. I can see why she is upset.

It’s not like her car broke down and she was stranded. She needs a ride for a normal errand. How does she normally get to the groomer?

[Anonymous]

OP, did your parents buy you your car with the expectation that you’d drive your sister around too?

[Anonymous]

Don't you have a job, OP? Why are you always available?

[Anonymous]

So OP your work out is more important vs helping your sister out? Yes you are selfish. I bet you have a pattern of using your sister. If I was your sister I would not go to the concerts with you or do anything with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have a job, OP? Why are you always available?

They're going to the concert on Saturday so I'm assuming that Op is off work during the weekends. Op is serious about getting her workouts in while her sister tends to view those workouts as optional or more flexible than Op does.

If this was an emergency trip to the vet, that would be one thing. But Op's sister needs help with a normal, every day errand. Op has her own errands to run and things to do but her sister expects Op to drop everything that she needs to get done in order to assist her with getting the dogs to the groomers. Asking is one thing, getting huffy and hanging up when Op said "no" was not right of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP your work out is more important vs helping your sister out? Yes you are selfish. I bet you have a pattern of using your sister. If I was your sister I would not go to the concerts with you or do anything with you.

So, Sister A has things to do on Saturday, including errands, a planned workout, and a hard stop at 4:00 for a concert.
Sister B also has errands to do that day, and needs transportation to them. Sister B doesn't have a car, so she asks Sister A to drive her.

In your mind, Sister A is obligated to rearrange her day and cancel her plans, whatever they may be, to act as Sister B's chauffeur to a non-essential errand? Sister A's plans are less important than . . . dog grooming?

I'm all for helping out friends and family, but the person asking for help is the one who needs to fit their plans around the plans of the helper.