Blended Families and College Tuition

[Anonymous]

My DH (NCP) pays 90% of all education including college. Ex DW (CP) pays 10%. He was very generous and it is written into their agreement.

[Anonymous]

Blended family with 4 kids total, 2 are mine, 2 are his. Our ex's have some parenting time, but all 4 are mostly with us. We split household expenses like mortgage, etc. 50/50.

But for college, I, my ex, and our kids will handle their college.

My husband, his ex, and their kids are responsible for theirs.

My ex and I are very careful with money and have saved for the kids' college since they were infants. Likewise, I save for retirement and a rainy day, and invest. I will protect this.

DH and his ex have zero college savings for their kids. I don't know what they will do. It is unfortunate but it will be up to them and the kids to figure it out, quite honestly. Both kids are in high school now so this will come up first (mine are younger).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Blended family with 4 kids total, 2 are mine, 2 are his. Our ex's have some parenting time, but all 4 are mostly with us. We split household expenses like mortgage, etc. 50/50.

But for college, I, my ex, and our kids will handle their college.

My husband, his ex, and their kids are responsible for theirs.

My ex and I are very careful with money and have saved for the kids' college since they were infants. Likewise, I save for retirement and a rainy day, and invest. I will protect this.

DH and his ex have zero college savings for their kids. I don't know what they will do. It is unfortunate but it will be up to them and the kids to figure it out, quite honestly. Both kids are in high school now so this will come up first (mine are younger).

It is so interesting that you are married to a man with a different approach to finances. How does that work for retirement savings?

[Anonymous]

I won’t allow DH to pay for more than half of in state tuition. I am not driving a Hyundai so some fat cat college president dan drove a Mercedes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I won’t allow DH to pay for more than half of in state tuition. I am not driving a Hyundai so some fat cat college president dan drove a Mercedes.

What does the president driving nice car have to do with it.

[Anonymous]

There is not much you can do.
If one parent cannot afford to pay and there is no money, the kid will have to take out loans and find a way to finance it himself.
Too late to say that there are too many siblings. It is what it is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I won’t allow DH to pay for more than half of in state tuition. I am not driving a Hyundai so some fat cat college president dan drove a Mercedes.

What does the president driving nice car have to do with it.

It means I am driving a Mercedes. Half of State school is the MAX